AN APOLOGY


Okay I admit it, this blog has gotten pretty lame this past month. Honestly, I wish I could blame it all on work. Yes, by the time I get home the last thing I want to do is stare at a computer screen some more. Yes, work gets me pretty grouchy so I take lots of naps instead. But really, the problem is me. Even with all of this beautiful sunshine filled weather in Seattle, I seem to be in a little funk. Moody, tired, lack of inspiration. Instead I spend my time on Pinterest and my tumblr just trying to keep up some sort of social media fa├žade. I mean, even my instagram has been straggling. That's when you know something is up. So this here post is a little apology to all my readers, family and friends. I feel like I let you all down, and even myself. Blogging, which once brought me so much joy and excitement, has turned into this huge chore; of doing it just to do it (and it shows)!

In the meantime, I'm going to go slap some sense into me and get out of this little funk (or writers block if you will). What are some of your tricks to get past these not so fun times?

P.S. To all of you who have emailed asking, Eric and I move to Florida in exactly 13 days! Woo!

44 comments:

  1. Hmmm maybe you could work out a way to get an an assistant to help out with some of the more tedious stuff with your blog? Like emails and stuff? That might make it feel less like a chore.

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  2. My rule for blogging is to give myself a break if it starts to feel like work. I have a real job and blogging is my hobby. If I start feeling pressure, it shows, so I'd rather post nothing then something crappy. I think doing what you just did - being honest - suffices. When you get a creative boost, try to get some posts into your queue, then when you're in a funk, you can still pull a rabbit out of your hat. :)

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  3. I know how you are feeling. My blog has gone quiet too. It's so hard to keep writing when you feel a bit blah. Looking forward to some tips from your readers :)

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  4. I soooo get this...Kind of right there with you right now!

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  5. I love your blog, and don't think it's gotten lame at all.. the only maybe lame bit is that you've posted less often,so I miss your updates. I always take a week away from all social media when I start to feel this way. Don't pressure yourself, it's meant to be fun xx

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  6. Honestly, when I get into a bit of a blogging funk, I just stop for a little bit. A week or two. I always end up getting inspired sometime during this little break and itch to get back to blogging! Let yourself off the hook, and just come back when you feel you have quality content :)

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  7. I totally understand what you mean. The second I go back to college or any full time sorority/academic commitments I seem to fall out of tune with blogging. The best thing that helps me get back at it, is to readjust my schedule and start planning. In the summer, I can blog nearly every day, but otherwise I tell myself that it's okay to cut back. I'd rather post something meaningful 3x a week, than a lot of fluff 7 days a week. Yah know? Then, I make a blog schedule or a little list of ideas for blog posts and attempt to get myself back out there. Scheduling posts can take away from the immediate thrill of posting, but it helps a lot with the consistency.

    We've all had unexpected blog breaks! No worries, the inspiration will definitely come back!

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  8. Hey chica, take a break and don't make yourself feel guilty over it. Sometimes you need some space and a moment to breathe to be really inspired. Though I will say that I miss seeing your updates! But I totally get it, so please, take a break and don't feel guilty! (otherwise it's not really a break because then you need a break from feeling guilty from taking a break.....)

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  9. don't be so hard on yourself lady! your blog is always a beautiful place and i just love the new look. you'll get your funk back, at least you're not a slave to your blog and just posting for the hell of it, now that would certainly be no fun.
    that's exciting about your move, me thinks that will give you new inspiration :)

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  10. Take a long deserved break :) No posts are better than forced posts.

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  11. I totally get that. You have no reason to apologize or feel like you let us down! Life happens. Blogging isn't the number one thing in your life and it shouldn't be--especially with so much stuff going on this summer for you. You gotta cut yourself some slack :) I've been feeling pretty lacking in the inspiration department too and my posts are definitely not as interesting as I'd like them to be lately. Give yourself time to settle in in Florida; sometimes the best thing to do is just relax and let it happen when it happens :)

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  12. I just started bogging again after unintentionally taking a month off, it happens! It stressed me out too. But really, I think that coming back when you are ready and inspired is better than forcing it. Take some time for yourself, especially with a move coming up! No apology necessary:)

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  13. I've gone through several periods of where I had writers block/felt very unoriginal. I think sometimes just taking a break for a bit seems to help. Gives you time to regroup. You have an exciting life change happening soon, I'm sure that will bring more material for you!! Just give yourself time and take a little "me" time. There's no harm in that :)

    xo
    Rachel

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  14. Look at all this love and support! We'll be here to read whatever you have to write whenever you decide to write it - when it stops being fun stop... right? :)

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  15. I've been feeling the saaammme way. No harm in just not posting and living your life and doing something exciting.....and THEN come back and blog about it :))

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  16. Take a break from blogging if you need to! You don't have to constantly update it, it's ok. Enjoy your present moments and blog when you have the time to. Don't be so hard on yourself. :))

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  17. This is more of a comment for the post below, but I couldn't find a way to comment on that one. Your Tumblr is very inspiring, you tumble some beautiful little outfits on there. Thank you for sharing it!

    Charlotte
    http://blog.retail-assist.co.uk/

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  18. Good luck with the move. I'm sure moving to Florida and having a new environment will be inspiration overload!

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  19. Little miss TJ, you never have to apologize! This little space of the world called blogging is meant to be an open place where you can share all things significant or trivial as they come to you, and having expectations of how frequent you have those things ebb and flow through you isn't fair. Life is life; sometimes it moves fast, sometimes it moves slow, sometimes you share with the interwebs, and sometimes you take some time to yourself to adjust to new jobs and closings of one chapter while beginning another. You are of course not lame :)

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  20. I here ya!!! Been the same way with my blogging! But I think quality is better than quantity!

    xx
    ileana

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  21. Oh girl, I totally get everything you're saying and I've definitely been there! I think stepping away for awhile to spark the creativity is such a valuable thing to do and I've had to do it several times, sometimes for months at a time! Sometimes you just have to let life happen a little bit, and ideas will flow from there! Seems you've got lots of fun things on the horizon, so I'm sure you'll be back with all sorts of goodness soon. Good luck on the move! :)

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  22. totally get you. sometimes you just need a little break.
    don't pressure yourself into writing. after all, it is supposed to be fun and not a chore.

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  23. I toooootally get this. Since the craziness of last year (getting married, moving to Tacoma, starting a new life) I've had a total lack of motivation in the creative sense. I haven't sewn in forever, my exercise routine is seriously lacking...and while I try to keep up on blogging for friends and family to keep up with our lives it gets a little overwhelming! Hang in there TJ...you've got so much to look forward to and sometimes we just need a little "breather" in between. <3


    hellolovegirl.blogspot.com

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  24. I know how it feels to be unmotivated and to just feel off. I totally get it. miss you!

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  25. I'm totally with ya, girl. Nothing to apologise for and no need to be hard on yourself. Take a break and/or post when you feel like it...you'll get that bloggy groove back. xo

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  26. Hi there, just stopping by to say how delightful your blog is. Thanks so much for sharing. I have recently found your blog and am now following you, and will visit often. Please stop by my blog and perhaps you would like to follow me also. Have a wonderful day. Hugs, Chris
    http://chelencarter-retiredandlovingit.blogspot.ca/

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  27. you're such a cute little blogger and i'm sure if you give it some time you'll snap out of that awful sounding funk! i think it's normal to get in a rut every now and then. but i hope you keep blogging because a) you're really just lovely in every way. and b) i just nominated you for that six facts thing if you're interested! :)

    http://www.shaylalilian.com/2013/07/six-facts.html

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  28. I love following your blog:) I have been in the same funk if you will. I'm like..I should blog about this..what a cute post idea, but I just get swept away into the next thing. Such is life..keep you chin up dear. We will be here:)

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  29. Don't worry TJ, we all get in funks. Plus I suspect the stress/excitement of relocating is taking up a lot of your energy, too. You have a fantastic blog, you won't lose any followers girlie!

    Sarah @ Life As Always

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  30. You beautiful soul!!! I wish I was that beautiful when I was 'in a funk':) You take some deep breaths and take all the time you need...
    Oh I hope your move is a save and 'chill' one! I have been thinking about you as we are figuring out all our move and stuff.. It's so much work so I say take a break from all this craziness- sometimes it's hard to have so many things and update about it as well! Watch out.. It's hot down here!

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  31. No apology needed - it happens to all of us from time to time, when work and studies just get too tough. Experienced the same last months. And now summer just came and with it the whole new inspiration. Wish you all the best and many many great posts! x
    etiene-et-eugene.blogspot.com

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  32. we all go through this at some time or another. I haven't blogged for the past 3 months because of this exact reason! this break has truly helped. I never want to blog because I feel like I have to or if I am not enjoying it, sometimes you just need to hit pause and reevaluate (:

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  33. I know exactly how you feel, well, I'm short time for internet and my posts are scheduled. Wish this agitation improve for you, suddenly you need a break even and then you come back, but do not stop blogging. All the best. Have a good weekend. :D

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  34. We are all here still, supporting and encouraging you no matter what you are going through. I have felt that pressure and funk in my life as well and then feel awful for my readers/followers on my blog and IG, but I know they are all still "there", and understand. It's OK. Aww, thanks for sharing hon.

    xo

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  35. No apology needed, TJ. Your blog is lovely even if you feel like it's been abandoned. We'll still be here whenever inspiration strikes - no pressure.

    Oo! A Florida move!? Wow, that sounds like fun. :)

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  36. Isn't it weird how blogging can so easily become a chore? When I slipped into a blogging funk, I decided a little hiatus was the best thing to do. Take some time off! Go out and do things/spend time with people/try new places that will give you something to write about later on. We will all still be here when you're ready to write again ;)

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  37. I can't wait till you are back with us <3 I miss comenting on your blog <3
    http://coeursdefoxes.blogspot.com/

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  38. Our 13 days to move to Florida, very cool! Success in new home! About absence, is quiet, sometimes we need to relax ... I love your blog. all good for you.

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  39. definitely a break helps :) regain that joy and excitement :)
    -Deana, from Birds&Oxfords

    StickyGram Giveaway!

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  40. I completely understand how you feel. As of late, I've been so busy that you could say I've completely neglected my blog! I feel like sometimes I just don't want to spend so much time of the computer, but thanks to a sweet friend, I've got my inspiration back! Yay! Prayer for you and your sweet man as you guys move to Florida! Starting fresh can be so exciting!
    xo
    Emma

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  41. Hope you`ll get joy of life and regain all your priorities including blogging:)

    Al
    http://www.apparelnbags.com/bella/index.htm

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  42. I am sorry to hear you have been feeling in a funk lately!!! I will always be your follower no matter how often you post!!

    I have had a horrible time staying inspired with Blogging lately, you are not alone!!!

    xoxo Dinah @ Sunshine super glam

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