TURNING TWENTY-FIVE

Today I am 25. I'm waking up this morning not feeling any different than the day before. I don't feel any wiser, I don't feel older, I don't feel ... old. These past few days I have spent a lot of time reflecting. When I was younger I thought a lot about where I would be at 25. I thought I would be long gone from those high school days. I thought I would be living in California, winning my first Oscar for best actress. I thought I would be married (check) and have a baby (not check). I thought I would have been a world traveler. I thought I would have made a significant impact in someway to someone. When you're younger you feel like you have to accomplish everything straight out of college. You feel this silent pressure to be accomplished now that everyone's first question to you is "And what do you do?". You think by the time you are 25 you will have it all figured out. Yes, today I am 25. I may not have everything figured out. I may not have an oscar, have a baby, be a world traveler. I may not have made my giant footprint on the world just yet. I may still be asking myself what I want to be when I grow up. And that's okay, because what I have learned these past 25 years is that right now is just the beginning. I'm not that old lady I thought I would be, I'm just getting started. So here's to all you other twenty-somethings out there. Own it, love it, embrace it, cherish it. And happy birthday to me!!

129 comments:

  1. What a beautiful post. Love it! I think, if anything, you've captured all our hearts with this lovely blog of yours - I've loved reading every single of one your posts. Happy birthday TJ, I hope you have the most amazing day today!

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  2. Happy Birthday!

    I thought when I was 18 or at least 22, I was going to move to California and try to become an actress. Well, I never moved and my life took a different turn, now that I'm almost 27. I'm happy how it is turning out though!

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  3. 25 made me feel older. Suddenly it was like... oh hey, I'm in my mid-twenties now rather than my early twenties. Happy birthday!

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  4. nicely said. I agree with all. :) and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

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  5. Happy birthday T.! :)

    xx
    http://gita-oddsandends.blogspot.com/

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  6. Very happy birthday! :) :) :) :)

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  7. happy birthday!!! welcome to the 25 club ;)

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  8. congratulations, I hope you have a great birthday :)


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  9. happy birthday pretty lady! 25 is a good one.

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  10. Will and I have talked a lot about this, actually, since we are also in this no-man's land of our mid-twenties---and our life does not at all look like anything we could have predicted even just a few years ago, but we are certain that we are a thousand times happier and more blessed because of it. I truly believe that the minute you let go of expectations and learn to ride the wind, life will blow you away with how it unfolds itself for you. Glad you are coming to that same resolution, and happy happy birthday to you TJ :) treat yourself!

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  11. What an amazing post! Happy birthday to you. x

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  12. What an insightful post. I've found myself in a rut lately about where I'm at and what I want to accomplish but I found your post to be inspiring. Life really isn't about the accomplishments and you are so right about being young and feeling like we must prove something to ourselves. Gotta get out of that mindset. Anyways, enjoy your birthday!

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  13. happy b day TJ! so true, i feel like i need to do so many things but we have our whole lives! this is just the beginning.

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  14. Nice, I loved this. And happy birthday! You share a birthday with my husband. :) fun.

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  15. Happy Birthday! Yes, you have your whole life in front of you!

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  16. 25 is very young! You still have time to win that Oscars :)

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  17. Happy Birthday TJ!!!!!! <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3! 25 hearts for you!!!!! :-)

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  18. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TANYA!!! Hope 25 is your best year yet!

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  20. Happy birthday!
    Lovely post, it's definately made me think. xx

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  21. Happy Birthday cute girl!! LOve ya!
    XO
    E

    Ps. that one up there was me I forgot to sign out of my hubs account. haha!

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  22. happy happy birthday dear! i loved reading your thoughts, lovely words!

    lindsey louise

    hellomrrabbitblog.com

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  23. happy birthday sweet lady! hope you have an amazing day :)
    25 is a lot of fun. i'm coming up on my last year in my twenties, and *that* is making me feel old :/ haha.

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  24. ya happy birthday!! perfect way to think about it. lots of life ahead of ya so why rush to accomplish everything. life is a journey so we might as well enjoy all of it. i'm 27 and still getting started! have an amazing bf of 8 yrs , a good job, and great family. that's all that matters now. the rest i'm enjoying as it comes. happy celebrating!

    MemoriesOfTimesPast

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  25. happy birthday! and what true words :) you're on a road uniquely your own and that's what makes it so amazing! hope this year is the best yet tj!

    xo,
    kristyn

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  26. happy birthady, have a nice day!

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  27. Happy Birthday TJ!!!!!!! Lovely words...it's so funny. Minus the actor and traveling the world, those are the exact expectations for 20s/25 :P Have a lovely day darling :D

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  28. I suppose that's pretty common to think you'll have it all together by twenty-five! I did the exact same thing when I was younger and had a mini-panic at 24... but soon realized, as you did, that goals are great but life evolves as it should and not as the benchmarks we set in our minds arrive. That's a wonderful mindset on your birthday! Have a fantastic day! You deserve it!! :)

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  29. Happy "you finally get cheaper car insurance" birthday ;)

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  30. Happy Birthday TJ! I had the same thoughts the day of my 25th birthday. I turn 28 this year (OLD! haha jk) and theres a LOT of things I havent checked off my list. It just means life and the years to come are going to be THAT much more exciting then the past. I love your excitement for your birthday, embrace it! You only turn 25 once, and you have 364 more days to enjoy it! :) Happy Birthday!
    Elizabeth Kathryn
    -lifeandlaughter.typepad.com

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  31. hell YEAH! happy happy 25th birthday my youth :) wish you all the best!!!
    what a gorgeous report!? i'll be 25 in approximately 2 months and still saying i'm 23, but you know something? 25 it's OK! i feel exactly as you girl! i feel young!
    have fun today and every day :) cheers!

    xxxFiC.

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  32. Happy Birthday to you :) You are amazing! I hope your day is just as amazing as you are :)

    Xo Lourdes

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  33. i LOVE this! i often have to remind myself that not having every little thing decided and planned and knowing how to answer the 'what do you do?' question is a-okay.
    enjoy your day and happy birthday!!

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  34. Hope your birthday is fantastic!

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  35. I love this!! Happy Birthday girl :) hope your day is as lovely as you are!

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  36. happy birthday pretty lady!!!
    -L

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  37. i totally relate to this! that is how i felt in december when i turned 25. it's so crazy the expectations and stuff we had for ourselves by 25. i always thought it seemed so old, but you're right! it's not! and i am loving it so far! i hope you do too!

    happy birthday!

    <3
    Kenzie

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  38. Happy Birthday!!! I am sure that 25 has many amazing things in store for you! I can remember turning 25 and feeling like I hadn't accomplished so many things I thought that I would have, but it turned out to be one of the best years of my life, and one that i look back on now and smile big about - I hope it's that kind of year for you.

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  39. Happy Birthday, TJ! You are completely right.. our world {at 25} is only beginning!! Cheers to many many more years.

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  40. Enjoy 25! Somehow there seems to be a big diff between 25 and 27......when 30 is really looming......it makes ya nervous!! Happy bday!!

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  41. You are so beautiful! I hope that you had a great birthday!

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  42. How lovely, TJ! Hooray for birthdays - wishing you a wonderful day filled with new memories and doing something you like. :) Your last sentence is lovely - do cherish this.

    Happy day, TJ! I know you'll totally "own" 25. :)

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  43. happy birthday! I have four friends that share your birthday! And yes, you are so very young still, enjoy it, embrace it! xo

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  44. Happy Birthday, TJ!
    All the best ever! ^^

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  45. But you're still beautiful, right? :)
    happy Birthday, friend!

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  46. Happy Birthday!!! You still have tons of time. :)

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  47. Happy Birthday! I turned just 20 a few weeks ago. Isn't it funny how birthday's make you very reflective? I was pretty sure that I was going to be married or at least engaged at this point....and I don't see that happening for a very long time! Hahah.

    Great post :)

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  48. Beautifully put, happy birthday lady!

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  49. so much time for so many adventures as long as you're living each day. happy birthday to you, my dear, and many happy returns.

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  50. 25! And look what a wonderful life you have at only 25! Happy happy birthday, girl!

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  51. My 25th birthday was just on Wednesday and I can totally relate! Being 25 doesn't mean you should have accomplished everything yet-it means you still have so many years ahead of you to continue towards your goals!
    Jenn
    With Luck Blog

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  52. Happy birthday! May this year be a great one!
    xoxo

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  53. i'm just turning 21 but i have had some of hte same feelings. happy birthday pretty lady!! <3 <3

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  54. I love this, lady. This year will be my 21st and I already feel old haha.

    I hope you have the loveliest day. Eat some yummy cake! Happy Birthday!

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  55. Happy birthday TJ! Enjoy this time without babies, school and lots of big responsibilities. Glad you'll get to do a little world traveling soon in Germany!

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  56. Happy birthday, lovely lady! Aaaaaaaaaall the very best, with oodles of health, love, joy and fun. And, hey, I just turned 28 a month ago and I STILL don't have things figured out, hahah. Some I do, some I don't. C'est la vie! xo

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  57. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Love this post so much, especially this line--"what I have learned these past 25 years is that right now is just the beginning." SO true. I think we have these set up expectations in our head of where we should be at certain ages, but we are exactly what we are supposed to be and time brings better things than we could have expected. You are always SO FABULOUS...that picture is AMAZE! You are amazing and I hope you have a fun day and year!!

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  58. Happy Birthday TJ! I love your perspective on being 25.

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  59. I am so convinced all the magic is in your thirties!! ha ha...but I think you just might be lightly sexier this morning...just sayin'. Happy Birthday!!! Love you girl and hope it is the best!

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  60. This post is almost as awesome as you! A year older then you so thanks for that shout out:) HaPpY BiRtHdAy you darling twenty five year old you!!!

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  61. Happy 25! You're not old until you're 40, I say.

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  62. Happy birthday! :D And you're exactly right, we don't have to do everything straight out of college. Keep doing what you love and you'll end up where you want to be. :) Beautiful picture, hope you had a great day.

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  63. Happy Birthday TJ! I hope you've had a wonderful day in the sunshine! Love your post, and as a fellow twenty-something, I feel the same about life at the moment :)

    xx Ellie
    www.ellalogy.com 

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  64. happy birthday! i just turned 23 and felt the exact same way!

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  65. Happy Belated Birthday! Hope you had a fabulous day.

    It's crazy all the expectations and dreams that we have when we're younger and then what we actually accomplish when we get there. I never actually had any idea though of what I would be doing or any thought of all the stuff I've done. So crazy.

    Always,
    Mostly Lisa

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  66. Hope I'm not too late! Happy Birthday pretty lady! Hope you've had a fabulous quarter century!

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  67. Love this! I thought I would be so much more "together" in my mid-twenties, but I'm slowly learning that even people my mum's age don't always feel they have it "together". You've just got to go with the wind and make the most of what you have. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! xxx

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  68. Great post. I'll tell you one thing, not in ten million years would I have ever believed that I would have seven kids by the age of 34. So I know what you mean. Some things happen the way we think and some don't.

    Yes, you are just getting started. Have fun.

    Shauna xo

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  69. the happiest of birthdays to you! you have so much ahead of you and I expect only amazing things. :)

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  70. Happy birthday!! My 25th birthday felt like a big one, but not for any reason other than I was happy with where I was, happy to be celebrating another year and excited for the next.

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  71. You speak the truth! Thank you for your encouragement. You're awesome!

    Have a very Happy Birthday!

    Nicole
    settleinn.blogspot.com

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  72. Happiest of birthdays to you! xo

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  73. i'll turn 24 this year and i don't even know how i feel about that. ha!
    happy birthday TJ! Wish you another adventurous year of life

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  74. Happy birthday darling:) I hope you have a phenomenal year!!!

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  75. Happy Birthday..a great post.. hope you have an amazing year.

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  76. Hope your birthday was AMAZING! :)

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

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  77. Happy Happy Birthday :)Gorgeous Picture. Gorgeous Girl :) Happy 25!

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  78. happy birthday darling! 25 was a great year for me!
    thanks for your sweet comment on my blog. i'm now following you & hope you follow back xx
    www.vicariousLA.com

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  79. oh, you're just lovely. it's ok, you've got pleeeenty o' time to check off all those things. and probably have some good surprises along the way too! happy 25th, sweetheart.

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  80. Happy Birthday beautiful!!!! You look gorgeous!!!

    xo Dinah @ sunshine super glam

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  81. Happy Birthday!

    I felt the same way when I was younger. I remember fretting about turning 25 for a few weeks before my birthday because I hadn't "accomplished anything". But four years later I know there is still so much life to live and I have done some pretty amazing things!

    Keep enjoying your moments!

    Cynthia
    danceitoffblog.blogspot.com

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  82. That's so funny - I was just talking to my boyfriend about how old 25 sounded when I was a little girl, and how much I thought I would have accomplished by then. Looks like you have tons to celebrate, though :) Happy Birthday, lady!

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  83. Happy Birthday! Your blog is adorable. I agree with everything you said too, there is so much pressure to have your life planned out at such a young age now a days. We have time, though. It's a great thing to hear.

    <3 Misha
    mishyme.blogspot.com

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  84. Happy Birthday TJ! It's always such a treat to see what you're up to, and this post doesn't disappoint - so honestly and beautifully written! Have a most fabulous day and come back to tell us all about it! xx

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  85. Happy birthday! May this year be your best yet! :-)

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  86. happy birthday lady :) You have so much in store for the near future, you are going to have a wonderful new year!

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  87. Yes, Happy Birthday to you!

    with love,
    H&H

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  88. Happy Birthday!

    Shannon
    httpp://GBOfashion.com

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  89. Happiest birthday to you! You are lovely!

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  90. I hope you had an amazing birthday TJ! xxx Hayley-Eszti

    www.hayleyeszti.blogspot.com

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  91. Happy Birthday!!!

    BTW: thanks for stopping by my blog -- I am a new follower!

    xx
    josie
    www.straightNOchase.com

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  92. Happy birthday! Hope it's most excellent!

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  93. Happy Belated Birthday! I love this post.

    xo Jo

    http://www.whiterosesandcoffee.com/

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  94. Happy birthday friend! 25 suits you!

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  95. Happy birthday TJ and what a beautiful post! I thought I would be married with 3 kids by the time I was 23 but I'm nowhere near that part of my life! x

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  96. Happy birthday!!! Love the red lips, you're totally rocking it in the photo! ;)

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  97. Everything you said in this post totally reflects how I felt turning 25, and even now after just turning 26. I thought I would feel so much older and have so much more accomplished. 25 sounds so much older when you're younger haha. Happy belated birthday, hope it was a fabulous day:)

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  98. Happy belated Birthday!! Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting :)
    New follower here! You take such stunning photos , and your husband and you are such a beautiful couple xo Best wishes, cant wait to follow along

    Raiana

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  99. TJ!!! Happy Late Birthday!!! I was trying to not miss it as we were celebrating our anniversary on the 25th but oh freaken well!!! Im soooo glad to have met ya via this blogging world!! xoxoxo

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  100. I missed it! Cheers to a great new year in your life TJ! :D

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  101. You are beautiful! I love your blog! :)
    How do you get your photos to look so vintage?

    xoxo,
    kate from kateemari3.blogspot.com

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  102. For me it's the same, when I was 15, I thought I would be rich and married with two kids. Now I'm 27 and I don't want to grow up! ahaha
    <3

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