LESSON LEARNED: IT'S SUMMER. LITTLE BLOGGING BREAKS ARE NECESSARY.



Stumbled across this beauty the other day and a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. This is one lesson I am still adjusting too. After a little over a year on His Little Lady, I'm starting to feel okay with "letting go". It's okay if I don't have a post scheduled for every day of the week. It's okay if I spend the day all to myself, no laptop in tow [cue the gasps]. So instead I've left myself a limit. No blogging once the mister is home from work. Now that the hubby is a working man, its important to keep the relationship alive; to give each other the full attention that we deserve. So if I miss a day of blogging here or there, it's okay. If my followers decide to yo-yo, that's okay too. Just know I haven't forgotten about you all.

Do you guys take bloggy breaks? What are some things you love to do to get the creative juices going?

99 comments:

  1. oh this is so true! its especially hard when we both work full time and come home tired and have no energy to make dinner or do something crafty and then blog. it can get exhausting. and when i started my blog, it was supposed to be about my adventures with my husband. if i'm spending all of my time blogging how can we have any adventures?!
    so true. i wont leave you for taking a break every once and a while. i'm all for it!

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  2. Blogging breaks are absolutely necessary! Everyone needs a little R & R from time to time to live, instead of writing about living ;) Thanks for the reminder, you're awesome! xo.

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  3. I definitely take breaks, and its in those breaks where i get the most inspiration! Cute blog

    www.blindingbrightshop.blogspot.ca

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  4. Summer always means blogging breaks for me. How else are you supposed to enjoy all summer has to offer if you're tied down to a computer all the time? Love the picture by the way. :)

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  5. it is so true (in any endeavor, relationship etc.) to set boundaries and know your limits and strengths. i have kids at home and find it difficult to get it "all" done so for now i just plan ahead (that helps alot!) and yes, like you, let some things go.
    thank you for pioneering an its okay "not to do it all" mentality!
    Cheers!
    Deirdre

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  6. Love this post :) Blogging breaks are absolutely necessary! And if you can't post every day, don't stress! I always feel a twinge of guilt when I can't post 3 times in a week (which is what I aim for), so I'm trying to let the guilt go and realize that it's okay to post less sometimes! Especially in the summer! Your readers will always understand :)
    Hope you're having a lovely day!
    xoxo

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  7. Take as much time as you need! I have taken many breaks, you just get too overwhelmed and need it!! We will still be here when you come back!

    xxS

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  8. so important to take that time with the mr. and if people don't understand, it's my opinion that they're not the type of readers you're looking for anyways! :) everyone needs a break and we all realize life does not and should not revolve around the computer... so breaks are healthy and it makes me happy! :)

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  10. good for you! I think it becomes fairly obvious when a blogger starts to see their blog as a chore, rather than a creative outlet.

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  11. Awesome girlfriend. Family first, right?! I think it takes HAVING a blog to fully appreciate how consuming it can be. And it definitely CAN BE! You take those breaks and follow those rules and feel good about it! Your followers will still be here. :) xoxo

    -Shannon
    http://gbofashion.com/

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  12. Bloggy breaks are a must!! And they are definitely easier to take in the Summer time!

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  13. You go girl! I definitely put that into practice last week and I did feel guilty at first. But, it's so important to remember that relationships (especially with our husband!) are so important and deserve our time. Good for you! :)

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  14. Lady you are FINE! It's ridiculous if you can post every day without fail!

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  15. I always take a break, and make sure we have "us" time! And btw this picture is full of inspiration! Thank you for sharing! I'm your newest follower, i hope you can follow me back if you'd like)) xo

    http://redinsidefashion.blogspot.com
    STRAW CLUTCH GIVEAWAY ON MY BLOG

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  16. i took like a 6 month break! i didn't look at other blogs and only updated sporadically...after blogging full time for a year that was a little crazy, but the funny thing was, i totally got used to it and loved it. your readers who matter will ALWAYS be there and it's not hard to get back in to. so enjoy your breaks!

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  17. I'm still trying to become okay with taking bloggy breaks. It's definitely good for the soul, though!!

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  18. I don't know that I take a "break" but I do try to stay off the Internet/computer and in effect away from writing about twice a week - usually on the weekends. It is "good" and the time away is "needed." Best of luck!

    BTW: Your new button is adorable!

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  19. I think it's definitely important to take breaks! I have finally gotten to where I don't feel guilty if I don't post every day. As long as I have 2 or 3 a week, I'm good. You should definitely be able to have time with your husband...that's very important :)

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  20. Stepping away from the computer can be refreshing. It's real life that matters most. Have fun doing whatever you're doing :)

    Sometimes a "bloggy break" is just what you need to get the creative juices flowing anyway...

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  21. amen! absolutely okay to take some time for yourself :)

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  22. Blog breaks are so necessary for us so that we can properly shut down! Good on you for taking a breather and wanting to cherish the moments with your husband :)

    http://www.jenventure.blogspot.co.uk

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  23. I really enjoyed reading this! I too have to tell myself no more once the boy is home from work. Hope you are enjoying your summer :)

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  24. I'm actually taking a break from posting for a few more days :) I try and limit myself, too. My blogging can become crazy obsessive if I let it!

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  25. Blogging really can become consuming and too much if you let it. I've definitely found myself in those obsessive situations and it's not a good feeling. Being able to relax and let go is definitely an art we all need to practice. Great post! Thanks as always for sharing!

    xoxo

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  26. taking a break is so important, in everything we do!! and i love your rule of no blogging when the mister gets home. quality time spent together is a must, also!
    xo

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  27. oh it's okay, girl. taking a break from blogging will make you feel more rejuvenated. and of course, family time always comes first. i did give myself space from the laptop a few months ago and would just post when i wanted to. usually only one post per week. and to get the creative juices flowing, i do a lot of things -- read, draw, take pictures.

    take care! <3 :-)

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  28. I take breaks all the time - it's all good! Just whenever you feel like blogging is when you should!

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  29. When I'm at college I'm the worst person in the world about taking breaks! Over the summer I've tried to dedicate myself to posting daily (because I now have the time). Today, I've taken my first break in awhile and it feels nice. Bloggy breaks are sometimes highly necessary! Love the photo. It's lovely and a wonderful reminder!

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  30. i try to blog mostly while my baby is sleeping and before my Mr. gets home from work. it is definitely hard and sometimes frustrating, but i know it's the right thing to do. i pretty much never blog on weekends too.

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  31. Now that's a healthy approach... so now, just share with me, HOW?! How do you stop the buzzing mind if not by writing...? :)x

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  32. i agree with you. i actually took a four month blogging break this year. i had just moved to a new state and was starting my freshman year of college and i just couldn't find time at first to write. once i did get into the swing of things i wasn't motivated to write anything. it took that four month break for me to realize i really do enjoy blogging and i missed it! xo

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  33. I totally skip days here and there, sometimes, when life gets really fun and distracting on you, you just have to stop worrying about your virtual world and live in the now :)

    xx,
    Erin
    http://erinscurrentlycoveting.blogspot.com/

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  34. Blogging every day is so excessive and would make blogging seem like a task rather than a hobby! Blogging breaks are definitely needed, I blog once a week, maybe twice, and this way blogging always feel fresh and fun!

    Carmen Ri.

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  35. So true! Im adopting your rules, no blogging when hubby gets home! He will be so happy!

    Carly
    www.lipglossandcrayons.com

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  36. i take breaks on the weekends and then get outside! i usually have all my inspirations come to me while laying out or taking a run.
    xoxo

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  37. Dear TJ,

    Breaks are more than okay :) blogging can sometimes swallow you up. Sometimes you need to step aside to gather your thoughts and enjoy life. Life is the best inspiration to get your creative juices flowing again. So go ahead, enjoy the new adventures that you have ahead of you and don't you worry about us. It's all just fine :)!

    Love,

    R

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  38. I've been thinking of a break here lately....or maybe just posting twice a week instead of four times. Sometimes I don't have time but I make time (instead of hanging out with Forrest & Salvador) and it sucks the fun out of it. Here to a bloggin' break! :)

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  39. I think that's a great idea. I try to update mine more frequently but don't want to miss out on the simple things in life. Especially in the summer. The warm days don't last forever! Bloggy breaks are definitely good! We really should stop to smell the roses more often, and spend time with our loved ones.Your readers should understand :)

    MemoriesOfTimesPast

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  40. you go girl! sometimes it's better to post a wonderful post once in a while than to do mediocre ones everyday. not that yours are mediocre, i just totally know where you're coming from. the blog is about you, not about us, and i have to remind myself of that a lot. i definitely have trouble "getting my creative juices flowing," so i take a walk or listen to music, look at pictures, take pictures, and hope that i like what i come up with. i like to think of my blog as a diary, which also helps!

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  41. i definitely agree and have been taking a break from blogging myself. until now :) hehe. enjoy smelling the roses and time with your man!

    xoxo

    brookelyse.blogspot.com

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  42. You can see on my blog that I don't post everyday and that's okay . You have to have balance in all the things you do in your llife. Enjoy your break.
    Always,
    Tarah and the City

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  43. summer is for sure a time for blog breaks. i like them, though. i follow one girl that does only one post a month but it takes about 45 minutes to read. it's kind of fun and different! (if you have some time to kill)

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  44. I totally agree with blogging breaks. However I find that I kick myself for not posting on my regular schedule. Thanks for the reminder that "it's ok" to take a few breaks especially when life still happens besides blogging

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  45. Take as many breaks as you feel like, no biggie whatsoever. And exactly, it's summer, which means waaaaay minimal comp usage anyway.

    When Yogi and I are in Europe next month I'll be posting sporadically because: Europe travel, duh. ;-)

    Heh heh.

    As for the creative juices, I don't do anything in particular...I kind of just think of what I'd like to write about and then it usually comes out. (Sometimes not as easily as I just made it sound, hahah!) xo

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  46. Good for you. And I think it's really important to have times that are off-limits- for me that's when all of us are home together until Sean goes to sleep. I want my first focus to be family, and there's nothing wrong with that!

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  47. Breaks are essential, I'm a newb and I know this! That is when my writers block always kicks in is when its about time to a break

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  48. I definately take blogging breaks! I usually do from Friday-Sunday! It feels good to just completely shut down and enjoy each others company!

    I always love your posts :)

    iambornlippy.blogspot.com

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  49. This has been on my mind for awhile- I am going to be away for three weeks over the Christmas break and just can't decide what I should do- just leave the blog idle or schedule posts in and if so how frequently...or should I try to blog while I am away as a way to keep family and friends in the loop with what I am up to? At least I have 6 months to think abou tit- maybe it will just come down to a time thing...

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  50. I feel the same way about this. I think it's great that you decided to not blog after the hubs gets home. I try to do the same, which is usually pretty easy, since I'm unemployed right now! So I typically can get anything blog related done while he's at work. He's at a police reserve meeting right now, so I'm good! = ) I'm in the same boat about posts. Sometimes, you just don't have anything to write about. And that's ok. And I think the people that understand that & do the same thing with their blogs, will stick around! Glad you're giving yourself a break! = )

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  51. Found you because of your sweet comment on my blog, thank you!! I love the photos on your blog! And yes, I think sometimes stepping away from the blog can be really refreshing...Also, what helps me is to keep a journal in Word Document where I know that I'm just writing for myself and keeping my voice true to who I am, and sometimes that jump starts creative juices and helps get out what I want to say better than if I know I'm posting on my blog.

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  52. Good choice, I like to keep my blog for just when i feel inspired to write. For me, it makes it more genuine and true to why I wanted to blog in the first place. It's good too that you're putting your marriage first, I'm sure your husband is very happy :)

    allie

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  53. Aw good for you girl. I think it's healthy. I don't have half the success you have on your blog, but I've always been a believer of living life first, then blogging about it later =)

    - Sarah
    agirlintransit.blogspot.com

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  54. Hi TJ,

    Well done you! Between blogging, twitter, FB and IG there is always something to do or someone your in the midst of talking to. It can take over your evening very quickly.

    I only blog when I feel like it and have something to talk about, but mine isn't anywhere as popular as yours is!

    Enjoy your time away from the Laptop...it is addicting!

    Gemma xXx

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  55. i do feel the need at the moment to make my posts really regular as i recently moved to a new address but i think that is just an excuse i say to myself when i am spending far too long on the computer. i need to remember that taking a break is ok and that is when you live and get the inspiration for new and interesting posts :)

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  56. amen. taking breaks is such an important part - it keeps you refreshed and refined and spending time with the man is MOST important :)

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  57. Good for you girl! It's hard to keep up with everyday posts anyhow! :) Breaks are important. :)

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  58. I fully support your decision and I know you won't regret it! I had to give myself a rule, too. Not to work on my shop when I'm spending time with my man. It is totally worth it, and has really helped both of us. It cuts down on stress, and emphasizes the importance of the other person.

    Nicole
    http://settleinn.blogspot.com/
    http://www.etsy.com/shop/Coleandco

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  59. I love this! Breaks are needed and I often feel guilty and panicked that all my readers will disappear if I take one. So silly! Thanks for the reminder to unwind.

    -Erin-
    onetwosummer.blogspot.com

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  60. I am so glad to hear that you have reached this point, it's so healthy I think to take breaks when you need them. It's about making priorities. I take them whenever I need them and my blog just turned 7, so I think it's important to longevity.

    xo Mary Jo

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  61. I totally agree with what you're saying! I need those little breaks as well! The only time I blog when the boyfriend is around is when he's got work to do as well!

    Have a lovely day!

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  62. Definitely take breaks, sometimes I go a week and only post twice, then I feel anxious about it but I realize if I was meant to post all week I would have. For me work gets hectic and I get tired and it's important to relax and take care of myself first. Pinterest gets my juices flowing as well as the amazing things I get to do at work!

    Kate :)

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  63. Yeah I take brakes on and off. And when I am not blogging I am reading lot of people :) Gonna follow you. Would appreciate if you do back xxx
    http://say-silently.blogspot.se/

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  64. Everyone needs a break :) always me anyhow

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  65. I am having to tell myself that too. It's ok to skip a day. I don't want this blog to become my life and let everything I do get wrapped up in it! Thanks for posting this :)

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  66. I have taken a couple breaks this summer, and it can be quite freeing! I am always able to get back to the real reasons I blog. No one can blame you!

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  67. Hey TJ! I definitely take blogging breaks. Pretty much every Saturday-Sunday and weekdays when I feel like it!

    So I'm trying a little bloggy activity that goes like this: boyfriend outfit post! basically, get your hubby in an outfit post and show the world! I would love to see it and it would be great to connect. I hope you do!

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  68. All the time. I blog to record my life, and funny enough my life gets busy or I just don't want to get on the computer. With 3 kids my time on the computer is limited, as it should be.

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  69. I totally agree with this. That's me, the summers are so busy and it's hard to find the time.

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  70. Agreed. I take breaks all the time and it reminds me that this blog is not my life and that I don't live to blog :) Gotta keep it real. haha

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  71. I definitely think it's good for your well being to take breaks!

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  72. Quality over quantity every time! Blogging won't be fun anymore if it has to be an obligation/chore... I completely agree with your thoughts!

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  73. Make art! That will let your creative juices flow! Let yourself be inspired.

    www.suspironews.blogspot.com

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  74. wow another great picture, thank you so much for such lovely comment. honey, would you like to follow me back? I really care of your opinion.
    http://coeursdefoxes.blogspot.com/

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  75. Yes, I think breaks are totally necessary. I really strongly believe in quality over quantity. I sometimes get annoyed with people that post everyday- I feel like I'm having to filter out the good content. No bueno! As far as getting creative goes, I believe in trying new things and then writing about your experience, or go to a new place, etc.

    xo Kayla

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  76. I think breaks are a necessity. You can pull back and re-group. I also have to take breaks from reading 1000 every day. My brain becomes overwhelmed & I leave super uninspired - not any of the bloggers faults of course. Keep kindling that flame with your husband :)

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  77. I took a bloggy break this week myself. My husband came home (finally), well, we have had other things to preccupy our time with.

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  78. love this! so true and so necessary, glad you decided to spend more time with your man and don't worry i'm not yo-yo-ing anywhere! i love (and need) breaks too =) better to post mindful and passionate content than just posting for the sake of posting!

    cheers from NYC :)

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  79. I totally understand where you are coming from. I actually just posted about neglecting my blog. It should always be something you enjoy - never something you are obligated to do. Can't wait to read more of your blog. :)

    http://sincerelyarizona.blogspot.com/

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  80. i'm with ya sis. sometimes breaks are totally necessary! enjoy your summer and time with your mister:)

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  81. I definitely take blogging breaks when I need to. Last semester especially, when I was in school full-time, traveling often, and planning my wedding. Sometimes you just need to take a break to stay sane! :)

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  82. Breaks are definitely necessary! A little time to step away and recharge is essential.

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  83. thanks for visiting my blog! :)
    you are too cute - i love the reminder to disconnect of course!
    we are busy writing about life, so we definitely have to be living it right!?

    dilynd.blogspot.com

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  84. You just have a good break and do what is necessary for you and your family girl. We will be here for you no matter what! It's certainly ok not to post everyday I think;)

    xo

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  85. gotta do what's best for you, not what's expected. your blog, your prerog.

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  86. Oh gosh, I loved that post from the veda house! It was amazing. And I agree - it's definitely okay to let go. The blog is not your life, and it'll still be here when you have time! :)
    ♥ xixia | thisisxixia.com

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  87. I totally agree with you. I think it's important to set blog boundaries. When I started my blog earlier in the year, my goal was to blog at three times a week. I never understood how people I followed (you included) could post everyday!! It mean it's a lot of work. I also try to stay caught up or blog after my husband goes to sleep so we can spend time together. That's an important thing to me. I enjoy our time together and I don't like my blogging to get in the way. I think once you figure out your boundaries, you'll be so much happier. And you totally don't need to blog everyday. You do what's best for You and we'll all be here no matter what. I haven't been blogging long enough to need to get my creative juices flowing. I've been lucky that things keep popping up for me to blog about. Me personally, I love to just get to know my fellow bloggers, whether it's questions or pictures. You've got a great following so keep doing what you're doing.

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  88. I am the epitome of blogging breaks but I've recently told myself that I really need to start again. I do it for myself because I really love to go look back on adventures and/or memories and I need to document more of them! In the midst of wedding planning, work, and school, I'm busy. So if blogging isn't a full-time job for you, of course it's okay to take breaks - whenever you please. :)

    xo.
    amanda

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  89. Seriously it's all about taking breaks lately!! Especially since I got back from Maui... it's like, "OH WELL if I don't have anything scheduled.." or "OH WELL if it goes up later than I usually post it..." We must take the time for what it's worth and spend summer doing summerly things!!

    Missed you frannnd! Hope all is going swell in your hood! xoxo, Bev

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  90. I definitely take breaks.. but I'm a new blogger & have a following of around 20 so I'm not too worried! I think blogging should be more for yourself and sharing what you enjoy, than to keep followers happy. So I totally agree you should devote time to your hubby! I blog when he's at work, or home and relaxing with a video game or out at rugby, so yea. :) Love your blog by the way, and your profile photo- gorgeous! xx

    Rose Eva
    Silhouetted

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  91. I have started to take breaks, blogging is supposed to be fun and relaxing, not another source of stress for me... so perhaps some readers will disappear, but those who really really really like your blog will stay and keep on waiting :) I know I will wait patiently for any new posts you have planned ;)

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  92. Oh yes, I've been almost forced to take breaks since I started my internship. I just don't have that much time anymore, although I miss it. I still try to post every three days, but I don't want to post just because "I have to". :-)

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  93. Ginger, I saw your cute face on TJ's blog. She is married to my fabulous grandson. Seeing that you live in Detroit I wonder if you would do a favor for me, or enlist your mom to do some research. I have never been to Michigan, but I do have relatives there, or in the Polish suburb of Detroit called Hamtramac, I believe it is. My mother's youngest sister, Mamie,from North Carolina married a very handsome marine during WWII from there.His name was Ed Tagai. I may have the spelling wrong. She waited out the war with his family while he fought in the Pacific islands. After the war they had a daughter and a son who would be in their sixties. Mamie died of cancer and Ed died of alcoholism. More than half a century later I am wondering if there are Tagai's still who remember them. Do you know anyone who could make a few calls from the phone book. I would be ever grateful.
    Doris Warner (teddoriswarner@gmail.com

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  94. I'm at the point where I don't take ANY breaks. I really need to! I feel that since I am a new blogger, that I have to prove myself by posting as often as possible! I need content & material for my readers to read! I hope that you are getting the much needed break that you need!! <3 Hope to have you back soon!! :)

    -Crystal from Billie Jean

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  95. Looove this -- good for you! I always feel so bad when I do... I have to learn not to. :)

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  96. Oh yes. Trust me, I know what you're feeling. I decided, a while back, to let go and only blog when I feel like it. My "real life" comes first! I have lost a few followers and gained peace of mind...totally worth it! :)

    Good for you!!!

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  97. Im not sure how you found my blog earlier.. but you did and I am so glad you did.. because I am already in love with yours. I agree it is hard in the summer... I try to just write out draft ideas as I think of them! We all need a little R&R with our loved ones! Can't wait for your posts to come though! xoxo

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  98. Spending more time with your hubby is priceless.It wouldn't kill anyone if you miss a day or a week without blogging. I will always wait for your post and read it. =)


    http://sassychunny.blogspot.com/

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  99. Story of my life the past couple of MONTHS. I stopped blogging almost altogether in order to get my priorities straight, and am just now getting my toes wet again. But I'm glad to have found your little blog :-)

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