JUMBLED THOUGHTS.


Between the mister's birthday and a last minute trip up to the Taylor family cabin in Lake Wenatchee, my heart has been very happy. But then I pull out my laptop, open up a new post and sit with a blank stare on my face. My motivation to blog has left. I read others and wonder "How do they always seem to have something so awesome to blog about", "How do they take so many incredible photographs", "How do they have such amazing style", "How do they make such a cool layout", or "How do they have so many followers". I've lost my true motivation to blogging and now hold on to comparisons. I start second guessing if what I have to say is even clever enough, funny enough, moving enough. It's no longer become for me. I guess underneath all of this mumbo jumbo (yep, a saying I got from my momma) is I lost my inspiration and I need your help.

What are some things you do to help you get out of a writer's block? What kinds of things do you like reading about on blogs? What are some posts you are missing on my blog, and ones you are liking? Feel free to leave advice, inspiration and words of encouragement. All is welcome.

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  1. I think it was Anne Lamott who talks about writer's block coming from actually being "empty" rather than the common thinking of "hitting a wall." So, I take a breather and go out and create an experience. I look for something, anything to "fill" my life that is good, and fun, and rewarding--weather it be going to the movies, out for a run or just hanging with friends. I also try to be patient and give myself some grace. It's impossible to always be "on" so if there words aren't there, they're just not ready.

    Just happened the other day, actually. I wrote a posted entitled:
    WHEN MY WRITING GOES TO S%#@! So, you are definitely not alone. ;)

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  2. I am going through this right now too. i just don't feel like doing it - I've gots nothing to say. I think it is good to stop and take a breath once in awhile....even in the blog world. The readers who love you will always keep coming back for more when you are ready to give it. Better to have less posts that are meaningful & authentic than a post every day that is forced.

    Just my two cents.

    you had to be there

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  3. it's funny you say this because i always look to your blog for inspiration! you always manage to post the cutest things. however I, too, struggle with finding cute, funny, creative things to write about sometimes on my blog. writing (on a good week) 5 posts a week can be difficult! sometimes my life isn't the most excited. so i guess i'm kind of interested with the advice you get on your comments because i think i need some help too!

    When I am finding it hard to think of things to blog about, i think about what people don't know about me. things that i haven't shared yet with the world that might be interesting. even if it's just one picture with a few sentences i feel like people respond to it and are interested. or something that happened during my day that made me laugh or think. sometimes i forget that i started my blog to share the random things bouncing around my head and now i tell myself i must have an interesting subject and fantastic photo. maybe remembering why you started blogging in the first place will help?

    just so you know, you are seriously one of my favorite bloggers and even the posts where you don't have anything to say are interesting. good luck and keep writing :)

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  4. I love reading your lists about random things.

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  5. it's really hard to remember why you started blogging in the first place sometimes... for yourself!!
    i recommend looking back through your older/first posts to kind of help remind yourself why you started, and help yourself get back to the basics! its easy to lose sight of them!
    you blog is awesome. don't ever feel pressured by any of the blogging world. yours is perfect just the way you do it:)

    <3
    Kenzie

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  6. You crazy girl! Your blog is the one I look at and say, How is she so awesome?!
    I think sometimes you just go through phases and I feel like in the summer especially I just wanna enjoy life and not worry about taking a picture of everything and blogging every outfit and every event.
    You'll be back to it in no time! You just need a break!

    :)

    Kirsten

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  7. Girlfriend, your blog is fabulous. I look at magazines and read and just try to use my imagination. But I fail almost everyday. I definitely dont take enough photos. And thats something I really should do. I think because my blog is only six months old Im still trying to figure it out. I agree, you may need a little vacation to get new inspiration. But dont be too hard on yourself. I love your blog, TRULY>>

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  8. I love your blog! Don't let the comparison get you down because everyone has something to offer. You mentioned that you wanted to take a shot at photography and I think maybe you should try that. Who knows, you might really like it, plus you have nothing to lose :)

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  9. It. Happens. and it happens more then once. Sometimes you just need to take a break, and not let it get to you. I have don't this many times, infact... I just did do it! hahaha Sometimes taking some time and refreshing YOU is all you need :) Don't worry about having it all together all the time! Blog for you :)

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  10. I think if you just stop making the blog a priority...things will start coming to you. And I think Summer time makes writer's block even more evident. I've just decided that I'm going to blog when I feel like it...

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  11. i always love your blog. umm when i get a block though what i do is i go outside or i do something else, that always gets me thinking. but i love everything, especially hearing about your life. you are the cutest :)

    K

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  12. First of all, your blog is one of my favorites! I love reading about what's new with you and the mister, what you love, anything really! You are very clever, lady you don't even have to try. I was actually telling my husband this same exact thing today. I feel hesitant to post anything because I don't want people not to like it, or feel like they will judge me. All he said is "just blog for you babe".
    Record whatever parts of life you want to, leave out whatever you want to! Just do whatever makes you happy!
    xxoo
    Tracy

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  13. I'm super new at this blogging thing so my only advice for you would be blog for yourself! I'm sure we'll love it! and I think it's ok to take a break sometimes...but not too long please, we'll miss you :)

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  14. I love your blog, and its actually really helpful to hear you say that this can be hard at times! Makes me feel like its ok when it happens to all of us!

    You are going through a major life change with the move, don't let yourself get overwhelmed and stressed! Take a break if you need to, and know that we will all be waiting to hear from you!

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  15. Since I only blog for fun, if I don't have anything to say I don't force it. I figure if the blogging isn't coming easily, it's not fun anymore so why spend time doing it when life is so short. I like what someone said above - go out and create some memories and then you'll have something to blog about.
    Also, the comparison game is the worst. It's so easy to get in that rut, but if you do, just remember there will always be someone better than you if that's the game you want to play (unless you get an Olympic gold medal) so just focus on what makes you great! And really, I think you're totally great! Your blog has charmed me and you're terribly sweet and you have a great eye for photography.
    Since you just moved back to Seattle, how about some posts about what you love about the city! I love exploring posts, especially to places I haven't been yet.
    Hope you feel better soon. <3

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  16. girl, your blog is super, you have accomplished so much! look at all those smiley faces that follow you!

    when i get smacked upside the head with writer's block the best thing that helps me is to read a book. It gets my imagination running again and gives me new thoughts/feelings/emotions that i can bring to my own life and thus blog about.

    take that writer's block!

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  17. Don't compare yourself to people honey, your blog is great because it is yours and that's why people read it! I used to do that too, (I only have 21 followers after all!), and be jealous of the gorgeous pictures of others or the amazing outfits, tons of followers and sponsors. But you know what, you blog because you like to and it's a creative outlet and a journal of your life. Don't stress yourself out, just blog about whatever the H you want!!

    val
    www.daily-distraction.com

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  18. TJ! I love everything you write! Try not too worry about everything else, I love hearing about you and the Mr, sometimes simple things are the sweetest too read :)
    Amy xo

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  19. Your blog kicks ass.

    PERIOD.

    But I totally get what you mean about the sorts of thoughts you've been having, and mulling over the whole blogging experience. And as for the "how do they have so many followers," oh honey, you've got almost 1400, heh heh! That's A LOT, beliiiieeeeve me. Speaking as someone who has a measly 17, it's a lot. Not that I'm complaining, natch. Last year I had a whole zero, and even up until three months ago so: baby steps.

    :-)

    I love pretty much all your posts -- is that too vague? Heh. But seriously, your blog has this vibrancy and chillness to it. There's a contentedness and honesty to it, if that makes sense.

    (I hope!)

    With my own blog, sometimes it irks me that the posts wherein I actually wax philosophical / put in the effort to really write a beautiful piece that I believe will echo with others / do posts that are more serious (e.g. about my late dad/the war, etc) don't garner as much of a response, which I find a little surprising, to be honest, because I personally always love reading such pieces from other bloggers, especially if they've also gone through crazy shizz. I pride myself on my writing and I do such posts infrequently, and it's particularly because of the fact they don't happen often that I think they should have more of an impact, you know? Plus I always space it all out nicely, not in a huge unreadable chunk. Hee! So it's like, when I DO write it for myself and do a serious post it...doesn't really have the same effect as when I'm being snarkilicious and entertaining and whatnot. In a way it makes one feel like a jester, heh.

    But anyway, it's a small annoyance and I don't pay it too much heed.

    Bottom line?

    I and maaaany others love your blog, but if you're not feeling it and feel like taking a break, however short or long, no one will mind. Don't feel like there's a quota of posts you need to fill in order to make the readership happy. Anyone who would have a problem with you posting more infrequently can suck it.

    There. I said it!

    :P

    Heh heh. XOXO

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  20. I totally get you about lack of inspiration sometimes... I follow you because I love you and your wonderful in every way!! Your posts are never boring!!!!

    x.

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  21. honestly, look thru your old posts. the answer is there. you are amazing tj. that's what keeps us coming back for more!

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  22. i feel this way sometimes, too. i think it's important to remember (at least for me) that the main reason i blog is to create a beautiful log of life, not to imitate anyone else's style or voice. if you think of it more like a journal or space to express gratitude, creativity and your uniqueness, it always seems to come easier. your voice is yours, TJ, and we all love it. don't beat yourself up if you miss a few days -- it's summer, we should all be outside reading a book in the grass anyway! xo.

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  23. It's funny you blogged about this, because I just stared at my screen for a good 30 minutes before I could write. And what I wrote wasn't even anything bril, but it could be because I am truly exhausted at the moment. When I get writer's block, I just let go, though, for a while, and wait until I get inspired again. :)

    ♥ laura
    the blog of worldly delights
    the shop of worldly delights

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  24. I love your blog-- First and foremost. Next, I love your honesty; this post--case in point.

    I myself enjoy blogging because occasionally I want to post like 3942 pictures of my kids swimming in the backyard blow up pool {which let's face it sometimes I do} but overall I like the separation that it creates. I blog about stuff I like, Etheline. Not {mama} Etheline. Things that make me happy no matter how random or odd to others. Keep up the good work--you blog is one of my favorites:)

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  25. I have those days too. I have a sticky note pad that I write ideas down as I just go through out my day and then I refer back to them when I have writers block. I have been following your blog for about two months and I really enjoy it!! :) It's actually real posts like this one that I like reading alot!

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  26. First off I love your blog!

    I've felt that lately too,but the thing is (for me anyway)I didn't start my blog to entertain others or make others happy.It's an outlet for me and being that I have such a terrible memory,I write my blog so I can look back someday at the little moments...moments that I've probably already forgot.
    My advice to you is write what makes YOU happy!

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  27. I have no advice for you, TJ but trust me - you are not alone. I struggle with topics to blog about ALL THE TIME. It just happens. Good luck!

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  28. Ummm I am right there with you. I've been feeling that way a lot lately, so you're not alone!

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  29. You and me both are going through similar situations. I currently have writers block as well and all these tips are helping. Just use it as an outlet to let your emotions help your expression. That helps me.


    -Milynn
    Love-And-Whimsy Blog

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  30. What a wonderful post (and a beautifully relaxing photo!!). I love seeing this side of you. I think everyone feels like this from time to time. And you have been going through so much with the move. It's easy to feel stuck.

    I wish I had advice on not playing the comparison/competition game- I can say that there is only one you- so you will win that contest every single time! However, I struggle with that a lot so I am happy to hear that other (way more successful) bloggers feel that way too!

    Don't put so much pressure on yourself. It's supposed to be fun! :)

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  31. I'm sorry to hear about your writer's block, girl! But hey, it happens to the best of us and it's totally okay. ;)
    I personally think you should share some more cute little adventures with the mister because it's always so sweet to read about the new memories you two are making, especially in your first few years of marriage!
    xo

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  32. stop that negative thinking! : ) the part where you think you don't have anything good enough to share! people will come back to your blog because it is about you! if they don't - then you don't want them reading it anyway! you are an amazing woman who has things to share - even if sometimes it is random or funny or serious - or even if it was boring -what is the worst that could happen?? and anyways - all those things are what real life is like!

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  33. ahhhh i was just thinking about this today! i'm afraid i'm going through the same thing and i haven't figured out how to break it yet. i chalk it up to summer fun . . . slacking off is allowed!

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  34. I basically just want to say ditto to all the comments! Your blog was once of the first blogs I started following. I've loved getting to "know" you. I actually love what you post about. I love hearing about all all your fun adventures with the mister. I'm excited for you to share your new life in Seattle. I think your pictures are great too.

    When I need inspiration I look at my favorite blogs. Sometimes other people have great ideas and then maybe I can put a spin on it. I love fashion so a fall back for me would be to create a new outfit or talk about a new trend. What is your passion, hobby? Just be yourself and talk about what makes you happy.

    You've got an awesome blog going and so many followers. I say just keep doing what you're doing!

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  35. I haven't been blogging for a long time, but I have often felt the same way. It's hard to read all of these amazing blogs where the authors have/are always buying such glamorous clothes or they are going off on wonderful adventures all the time. It's hard to be inspired, especially in the summer, as I'm off of school and am really just sitting around at home!

    Honestly, I feel that people will come back to your blog (at least I do) because of your voice. You are incredibly charming and funny and sweet and your posts come off as that! I think as long as you find the good in the simple things, in the everyday, as long as you put your own little twist to it- it's absolutely blogworthy!

    Keep on keepin' on!

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  36. I totally go through phases like this, I think it's totally natural and it's good to remember that it will pass. Before you know it you'll have your blogging mojo back and you won't even remember this! Also helpful NOT to compare yourself to others (i am the worst at this!). x

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  37. We have all been there! I just honestly won't blog when i feel like that, the forcing wont help. We never shouldnt compare ourselves to othrrs, we are all unique and that makes us all special! Same with blogs! I do the same, but trying to fight against it ;)

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  38. i'm right there with you sweetheart. blogging can be hard sometimes because there is so much room for comparing. you have to get back to your roots and remember why you started blogging. your blog is such a fun place on the web and so many people come to look at it because it makes them happy, not because they are envious but because your blog makes them happy. just know people like your blog cause you are yourself.

    blogging makes me happy and helps me feel creative. i have always been an avid journal keeper and this is just another way for me to collect my thoughts and write.

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  39. honestly, the more i blog, the more i come up with ideas about blogging. i try to think of it as my personal journal -- if something important happens during the day i make a mental note that i want to blog about it. and some days i don't have anything interesting to say, and that's ok too.

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  40. Girrrrl, I totally get you. I keep thinking that when life is great and I'm really happy, I'll have all this great stuff to blog about. But it never happens! I usually just write crap; just putting anything down is good practice. Plus, we love everything you write!

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  41. "Comparison is the thief of joy". Never forget that quote! Everytime I see a new post by you, I get excited. As long as you keep blogging about what you enjoy, your life & thoughts, that's all that matters. Please don't go changing anything!

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  42. Oh gosh, it's soooo easy to compare my blog to other blogs! And I hate it! I always think to myself, "I've been blogging for a couple fo years now... why don't I have more followers?" haha. But I really do enjoy following a ton of blogs because they inspire me and help me come up with new ideas for my own blog. The pressure to blog is kind of annoying too, and I'd rather just not blog if I don't have anything that I personally think is cool to share or fun to show, as with outfit posts. I'd like to think that the quality of each blog post is far better than the quantity.

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  43. I do this almost every time I log on here. Wondering if others will think my blog is pretty enough, or my fonts are the right ones, or I have the right buttons. Then I start wondering why I don't have enough people following me. But, in the end, is it really about that? Not for me, although, having more followers and friends would be nice(something I'm' working on), I just try to blog when I can(because of my busy schedule)which I'm slowly starting to figure out to make a few posts at a time, I blog about my usual but then try to throw some other things in there.

    Just be true to yourself, the rest will follow.

    Kate :)

    theclassyblog.blogspot.com

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  44. Ah its true! I could totally relate to your post. Im actually a Lawyer and blogging was supposed to just be a part time hobby. I think once you see the reaction from people you get quite addicted to it and want to keep pleasing. But since its not my career, Iv decided to blog only about what makes me happy and inspires me. Thanks for stopping by my blog :) Lets follow each other?
    www.simplysiyaam.com

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  45. First of all - I love reading you posts. Each one. Even if it is mumbo jumbo :)
    Secondly - I have 200 followers, and I'm not second guessing myself.
    I'm blogging 'cause it makes me happy :D
    If I don't have anything to say, I don't.
    I've made "Wednesday playlist" and "7 Things That Made Me Happy This Week" 'cause of that.
    I love to read everything, from fashion potst, to what have you made for lunch.
    My next topics will be something about wedding organization (mainly 'cause I'm totally in that now since my wedding day is approaching), then some fashion tips, interior design, what to cook, friendship...
    I don't know... I usually browse other bloggers (including you) and search for some inspiration :D

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  46. I basically just like to see how people's lives around the globe are. and how they handle their difficulties in life. I love love love one writing about one's job. It's interesting cos' you get to know what goes behind closed door (i mean office doors..homes..and whatnot). I have umm, 40 something followers and i'm thinking even i have 4000, that won't trouble my blogging style. I blog when I like. But yes, some lists are really helpful when you get stuck. For example self portrait sunday? or post photos of color themes every other day?

    Hope you pull through and find your direction again!

    Best wishes,
    Natasha

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  47. i just tryo to stay true to me, and what's going on around me. even if it may seem like people don't want to know what you ate for dinner, they do, because they become invested in your life, even the little things. so keep it up! you're awesome. that's all you need to know.

    -Amy
    GIVEAWAY
    http://theblankpagesblog.blogspot.com/

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  48. I agree with Amy Palmer. Whatever you write about, keeping it personal is the best way to feel the connection with the readers, and that they feel the connection with you. I must say it's a beautiful feeling to feel a certain bond with people you haven't met, it's kinda harmonic. ;)
    I'm following you now. :* If you want, you can find me on: http://the-wandering-heart.blogspot.com
    Have a nice day! Kisses from Serbia! <3

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  49. Hey girl! First of all, I think this happens to all of us from time to time. You just gotta give yourself a break, no pressure to writing anything. Leave your mind blank for a day or two and than you'll suddenly see thing happening.
    And who cares what your readers think about your posts - you write them because you think they're cool, right? Like the girls above said - just stay true to yourself and don'r worry about us, readers. We love your blog for what it is! :)

    xx
    http://gita-oddsandends.blogspot.com/

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  50. I think that bloggers are a different sort of people. One in a million.
    Were creative, thoughtful, and pretty downright awesome. We read other blogs because it feels so good to know that there are others out there! Like little aliens wandering the earth looking at the moon hoping that well meet someone one day who is just like us!

    I'm sure you notice the crank load of responses to this post because, guess what: we all feel like you do! We all go through the same process of writers block and blog envy because its who we are.

    I read your blog because I love seeing/reading about about what you do, what you think about it and how you choose to write about it. Blogging creates community in a way that crosses cultural and language barriers.

    Keep writing, but write for yourself and be real. I often skip over blogs that I find too dewy and fabulous because I get a little overcome with the 'oh thats so awesome...B!&@#' syndrome.

    **Also, having moved 20+ times in my short 22 years I feel the responsibility to tell you that big life changes (even moving 'back home') can drastically disrupt your brain's ability to cope with everyday stuff (who you are, why you do what you do...etc). Embrace the process and accept whats happening; allow time for adjustment. Most of all, don't put too much pressure on yourself, TJ.

    Finally, one more thing, just be raw. It makes me like you even more :)

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  51. I haven't read all the comments above, and I'm pretty sure I will repeat what has already been said.
    I love love His Little Lady!
    I think the key is to stop for a while and remember all the reasons why you started this blog. Make a list!
    Stop thinking about the others, think only about yourself and what you wanted this blog to be and what you want it to be in the future.
    To be honest with you I have the same problem, and I think every blogger at one point has his doubts.
    I started blogging because I wanted a little place on the internet I could call mine. A place where I could store all the little things happening in my life, the small things but also the important ones. I never started thinking 'I want thousands of readers and make money out of this', because that would be blogging for all the wrong reasons.
    I try to stay true to who I am, and what I love. It might be what I had for breakfast or simply what I did that day.
    I always think this is going to bore people to sleep, but really, everyone loves having a little sneak peek at what people do, wear or eat.
    We all come from different places, different backgrounds, different cities which is why something that seems 'boring' to you, might seem absolutely amazing to someone.
    Also I thought this was an appropriate list : http://pinterest.com/pin/194569646371540309/
    Good luck girl!
    xxx

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  52. Don't be silly you beautiful girl! Your blog is so easy to read I get lost in it :) so don't stop! It's great to have a break from me and learn about you
    :)

    Jess xox timefortea

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    1. Amen sister! I always lose faith in my blogging ability but I have to say that I pretty much L-O-V-E your blog all the time so don't you even worry! When I've lost inspiration I redesign my blog which I've done now with a whole new name and shiz haha, I'm way too indecisive! I loved your insta photos from your man's bday, you guys are so cute!
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      Berni

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  53. I think it happens to us all sometimes TJ - don't worry! I always enjoy your posts, no matter what they are. I love your little notes, and I love the pics you snap of your day to day life - it's fun to get a sneak peek :)

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

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  54. That's so funny that you of all people would have post like this! I love reading your posts, and find the things you say to be super encouraging! I'm super new the blogging world, so I'm still embarrassed by mine. Be encouraged by all of these comments!

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  55. I've had this in the past and haven't posted and that feeling makes me feel worse. I think what inspires me with blogging is just really interesting fashion. I love seeing people who have a different sense of style or something unique to say whether it's through their own photographs or photographs taken from the web. For instance, I love honestly wtf because they introduce me to new artists all the time. It's great.

    $100 Shopbop GIVEAWAY

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  56. I'm pretty new to blogging. I got started so that I would have a place to record my projects and adventures. I basically got tired of looking at all the awesome things other people were doing and wanted to branch out and do my own. Now, for instance if I see a project on Pinterest. I pin it, then I do it, and then I post it on my blog. (I used to just pin it and not ever try it.) Having a blog has led me to be more creative, because it has a sort of accountability. I can look back and see my progress and what I've done. I also love the sense of community that developes as well.

    As for the envy bug, it can be hard not to compare yourself to others in the blog world, but I try to focus on the inspiration I can take from others and make it my own rather than getting down on myself with "Man, I wish I thought of that/took pictures like that/etc." People read your blog for you (imperfections and all) and no one else can replicate that.

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  57. Just be yourself. It's that simple. You seem to be doing a great job. You have plenty of followers! xoxo

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  58. I love reading your posts about life with your husband and the fun stuff you do! the little snippets you add to your posts like the saying from your mom make them fun to read. think back to why you started blogging in the first place and regain that enthusiasm! I miss reading the awesome and awkward thursdays and the little note posts. keep it up this is one of my favorite blogs!

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  59. i had this feeling for quite a while but i don't think it is anything to worry about especially as your blog is amazing!

    i just gave myself some space and let me re-focus which ended in me making a massive change which was needed.

    just go and live and you will be inspired again in no time.

    and don't forget blogs only show what people want you to see, nothing is perfect all the time :)

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  60. I've discovered that people just appreciate pure honesty lately. Talk about what makes you happy. Share pictures of the things that make you smile. People that appreciate you for who you are will continue to follow. The rest don't even matter. This is your little place to tuck away dear memories. It's your place to share dreams and fears.

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  61. I like your Awesome & Awkward Thursdays, Little Notes, your outfit posts - everything! We all go through blogging slumps every now and then, totally fine. Inspiration will strike again soon! Until then, just keep showing pics from your daily interesting life!

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  62. I do love your Awesome and Awkward posts...and just love reading about what you're currently reading/watching/doing/appreciating. I know I went through a period of time a couple months ago where I constantly compared and deprecated my blog--I don't know a THING about blog layout/formatting, don't even edit my pictures, have no budget for clothes, and am using the world's cheapest point and shoot camera on self-timer in my backyard! But in the end, I decided that the blogging friends and the time spent in just expressing myself creatively were the important things...not what others thought of my blog. Hope that helps, at least in the sense that someone out there can relate :)


    <3 Cambria
    jupefashion.blogspot.com

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  63. I'd say first thing to do is stop blogging for us! I'm going through this same thing right now. At first I felt really badly that I wasn't delivering for my followers (ya know, all 34 of them) & then I remembered that when I started blogging I didn't do it for anyone else & I truly didn't care if I ever got any followers. I figure when I have something to say I'll say it.

    My favorite blogs to read are the ones that are about people's REAL life. You really can tell if a post is forced or aimed to just please the readers. So take a break until you have something to say. I mean, does it REALLY matter if you lose a few followers if you stop posting as much? Blogging should be about YOU & if you need a break, take one! :o)

    Go enjoy that happy life you're living!

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  64. whew. I'm glad I'm not the only way that ever feels this way. ;) I really have a hard time finding awesome stuff to blog about. Especially after reading all the awesome blogs I follow.
    but, I must say, yous a crazy lady. your blog is pretty much my favorite. :D lol. I'm sure you'll find your inspiration again soon. An' I'm certainly not a blogging expert, but I've seen a lot of times where just taking a break is a good idea. :) I know how it feels to blog out of some feeling of obligation to it instead of just cos you love it. <3 <3
    xox

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  65. Ditto!! Although, my problem is not so much lack of inpsiration, it's lack of time! I have to step back and remember that I am doing this as a hobby becuase I enjoy it, not because it's my job and I have to post everyday. Here's a good luck for you -- that you find inspiration and get past that nasty writer's block! :)

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  66. I can definitely relate to that! I just have to keep reminding myself that I'm blogging my life, not someone else's. So I need to stop comparing mine to everyone else's.

    Sometimes I'll go several days without posting and start to feel bad about it. I shouldn't! It's my blog...if I don't have anything to post about for a week, so be it. Just know you aren't alone :) And know that your inspiration will come back! highs and lows, they are normal.

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  67. I think all the positive comments on here alone shows how much your readers care about you and what you write.

    I have felt the same way as of late. Two things that have helped me in this area:

    1.) There is no one just like you. No one who is exactly the same or who has the same story. Or ever will. So share the story. Share the little things. Share the life that already makes you unique.

    2.) And I have found when I start to compare myself to others or other blogs my joy is stolen. The joy of writing is gone. The joy of community is lost. So, as a way to battle that I focus on the things I am grateful for in regards to blogging. And I keep building upon that.

    (i wrote a book. But, we appreciate YOU). :)

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  68. first of all, i loooove reading your blog and it's by far one of my favorites in the whole world :) i like reading your random lists and getting style tips when you put up a picture of an outfit. since you guys are/have moved into a new place....maybe you could show before and after pics? just a thought!

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  69. While I'm not a hardcore blogger, there are reasons I blog...

    1.) To document our life through photos, and the letters I write to my sons (even though there are currently only three... hmm need to get on that!).

    2.) I started a "facebook" remember when... I love finding little things my boys did that make me smile or laugh. Another way to document our life.

    3.) I like sharing my work, my photography.

    4.) I love positive quotes and try to add them to my blog occasionally for my own pick-me up and for others.

    5.) I like that I have a place to express myself. There have been several times that I put it ALL out there and have I have a huge lump in my throat before I post, and I know to some it may seem like I'm "over-sharing" but I'd much rather "over-share" my life than not. I want people to know the real me, and my family and friends GET just that when they come to read my blog. (I usually post new blog posts on my facebook feed for everyone to read.)

    And that's why I blog. I think you should sit down and ask yourself what YOU would like to read on someone's blog or see. What posts are your favorites? Why do you blog? Those are only things you can answer.

    I've found lately life is getting so crazy and exciting my blog has taken the backseat, but that's okay because I'll have plenty to blog about when it settles down :)

    GL!

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  70. first, i think your blog is BEAUTIFUL. i love the simple layout. 2nd, this is why i ended up taking a 6 month break i think, i was just tired of it. but...it sounds typical, but you have to blog for YOU or of course you're not going to enjoy it anymore. and i feel like you can tell the bloggers who stay true to their style and themselves and those are the ones that i am still following today, you know? i just like when i can get to know a blogger through how they speak, etc. (funny though i don't speak often on mine, but i think my readers know that what i post is "me" and not something i think that they want, you know?)

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  71. Hey! I feel you. And for the record I LOVE your blog and I love your off the cuff remarks and funny stories and the way you write. It's all brilliant. What I do to get out of a slump is first of all take a day or a few days off, then I just wander around the blog world for fun, looking for inspiration. I also just take my camera wherever I'm going and snap pictures of things (random or not). Good luck! Your blog is always one of my favorites. :)

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  72. usually what iu do if i have block i just take my time and try to write some things down that i am thinking about..when the right idea comes, it just comes, can't force it!

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  73. When I started blogging, I didn't have a large readership, but I felt this enormous pressure to post every single day. I usually missed 3-5 days a month and I felt this huge guilt hanging over my head.

    Then last April I decided that I owned my blog and it really wasn't doing anybody any good to post poor content just for the sake of posting. I don't have people paying me for ads. I don't have anybody counting on me to blog. And so I just stopped blogging. For about a week. And then I wanted to blog again but only post when I had something to say.

    I do feel pressure now to blog, but it's a different kind of pressure. I have people emailing me for ad swaps and comments telling me that I'm funny and hilarious and relate-able and I LOVE those comments. I just wonder-- how long can I keep it up for? How long can I be funny? How long can I keep going? It's exhausting.

    However I still do keep that mantra. I only blog when I want to blog. Some weeks I post once. Some weeks I post six times. It averages out that I post 15-19 times a month. If I were you I would just take a break until you actively had something you wanted to say. Just enjoy your vacation! Do things for YOU, not so you can blog about them. :) Good luck!

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  74. I love your blog so much! All you need is TO LIVE! Life give us so many good things to share with! Just don't comapre yourself to others... You are amazing girl!

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  75. i go through this same feeling frequently. bottom line is your happiness. i enjoy your blog of course, but it means nothing if you don't enjoy your blog.

    xo, lizzie

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  76. i so agree sometimes! love your blog!
    xx
    b

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  77. the first time i came across your blog, you did a post about halloween where you and your hubby was having a sword fight inside a store. that's what got me first hooked on your blog. i love how you share and show what you are up to no matter what you are doing. love that video

    sam*

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  78. You're adorable, and anything you post people will love because of it. You are you, and that's what you should post about. :)

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  79. TJ! All those things you just mentioned...those questions you ask/ed yourself? Are questions WE ask about you and your blog!

    But here's the deal. I have only been blogging for less than a year, and I will never be "that" girl that has all those things so "perfectly" on her blog, as you can see with mine. But what I do have? My gift/s. I stopped trying or wishing I was something else, or that I had different "better" gifts or talents, because the truth of it is is that God made you, you. No one else. And my advice is to focus on that. Focus on what your gifts are. What would you say you are good at or gifted at? For me it's relationships, and connecting with others, and sharing my experiences and sort of speaking universally. That is what God is having me use my blog for! Not to be cool, not to be popular, or trendy or admired or for business, or any of that. But how can I make a difference? I would pray about and ask others what they think your gifts are. I had to do that, because I felt I was good at a few things---but everyone pretty much said the same thing to me. So long story short. Hope this all helps, and I am confident that it will come to you and you will be renewed and inspired, I just know it, you are a blogger, we love you and you have a lot to offer!!!

    XO

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  80. TJ really? YOU'RE talking about lack of inspiration? Look at your followers count and the amounts of posts you still do!!! You're doing fine and a slower period is not always a bad thing. Maybe you will get some rest from blogging and hten you will have a wave of inspiration...

    I've been lacking motivation, inspiration, energy and time to write and I miss it very much yet I still cannot come up with anything. I want to blog!!! Someone HELP ME!

    xx

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  81. Oh and I love your new logo. But I wish it was a bit bigger. It kind of disappears a little.
    xx

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  82. Sometimes when I start looking at too many blogs I feel overwhelmed and it cuts out any inspiration that I would have for blogging or just my life in general! It's easy to compare to others, but at the end of the day you aren't anybody else except for you. And you are amazing girl! So just blog about that. xox

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  83. girl. you're great! do your thing and don't compare. this blog is all about you, anyway :)

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  84. yikes, I have no advice. I'm feeling the same way over here. But that picture is pretty inspiring!

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  85. I totally understand where you're coming from! It can be overwhelming and stressful to come up with topics to blog about and it shouldn't be like that. I think we all start a blog b/c we have things we want to share that we're passionate about. When it starts to become a chore is when you want to throw in the towel. Maybe take a short hiatus and just let life happen. You'll probably come up with all sorts of great blogging ideas on your hiatus and you'll come back so refreshed and rejuvinated. That said, I LOVE your blog and look forward to reading every post so always keep that in mind! Happy Friday love!

    xoxo

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  86. I love your awesome/awkward posts... I love your blog because I feel like its so personal, and i get to know you. But, there are those some ruts with all things, blogging included. Maybe take a one-week break, and see you feel? Maybe during that time you can make hand written notes about stuff you would like to blog about more and more - sometimes when i handwrite stuff and take a step back, it helps.

    xo everything-pretty.com

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  87. TJ! I feel exactly the same - I'm an ASPIRING blogger, and I think I try too hard to be the same as the bloggers that I admire. I need to focus on being more myself. I just deleted my baby blog to start again and focus on being 100% me. Scary! But please don't be sad - I love your blog and think that you're beautiful! Xxx

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  88. I think a lot of bloggers go through this all the time. It's hard to sit there and write when the words are being forced out of you! But try not to compare your blog to others' blogs...I think you're doing a fantastic job! Maybe you should take some time just doing what you enjoy, and inspiration will come to you!
    Best of luck!
    -B

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  89. Wonderful outfit!! Love your blog

    xoxo

    Tali
    www.nuasecruas.com

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  90. Can i come talk to you about this on this deck above the water???? I could sit and ponder all the answers to life's questions in a place like that. I mean it!!!

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  91. I feel like this all the time. Constantly. Especially about everyone else having pretty photos and mine are blah haha. I really have no advice since I am dealing with the same thing. But I hope you find a way to get through your writer's block! Your blog is lovely and enjoyable to read so don't worry too much about it. It's good.

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  92. Breaks are great and enjoy this time. What a beautiful view. I have been so busy with family trips, all I can do is keep up with that. I do get this feeling though too! I read somewhere, take a shower. You usually think about something there. Good Luck!

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  93. the same thing just happened to me...i was feeling very uninspired but im having a grand old time! i did a few layout changes (doing that often though would probably confuse readers..) dont worry about posting so much is all i can say :) i love outfit posts ;)

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  94. Well first off, thank you for your sweet comment! I definitely know how you feel, who doesn't have writer's block or subject to comparisons? I've read from a lot of "successful" blogs to write about what you really love and write about, which, honestly isn't always the most interesting, but YOU enjoy it, and that's what it should be for! I usually get random ideas during the day, so I have a "blog" page in my journal for inspiration later. Or just get on the internet! Post from your Pinterest boards, Yahoo news, etc. Hope that helps. Your blog is BEAutiful so don't you fret!

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  95. Don't we all feel like that sometimes? At least I do. I guess you can't force it, that's just how things works. But I have to say I like your blog the way it is (that's why I read it :)). But my favorite posts are always the ones were you get a sneak peek into people's life, what they've been doing, what they've been eating etc. I think that's why I read blogs, I want to see how similar yet different lives people live in other parts of the world.

    Take care! //Niina

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  96. Aw I love your blog. It's so cute.. and it's so about your life. I think that it's fun to hear about what makes YOU happy.. and it is about you :)
    You're so sweet.. and you and your hubby are perfect.
    I think what makes things beautiful is them just being real.. don't let yourself be compared to anyone else..
    You're a pro blogger.. you should be GIVING advice. :)

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  97. Blog for YOU! If you get a few followers along the way (like me!) then its an added bonus. Record what makes your heart sing and your face smile. xo!

    PS I think your grew layout is the cutesttt.

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