WHY DO YOU BLOG?

As most of you know Google Reader is soon coming to an end. To some this can be devastating. To others, we improvise and find other ways to keep our readers in tact (BlogLovin’, what have you). And then there’s others who took off Google Reader from their sites months / years ago and never really cared. Either way, this whole “numbers” thing really had me thinking. Why do I blog?
When I first started up my blog almost two years ago I was going through a great change in my life of getting married to my best friend and I wanted to document it. I was never very good at keeping consistent journal entries and turned to the Internet, a space where I consume so much of my time, as the next best option. Within weeks of starting I really just found a passion for blogging – the community, the writing, the inspirations I found from other bloggers and within myself.

And as blogging is continuing to be seen as this massive platform for other potential opportunities (writing your own book, becoming a spokesperson for clothing lines, starting your own line, getting your own television show) so many have turned to blogger for their chance. I would be lying if I were to say that numbers didn’t matter to me. Don’t get me wrong, numbers aren’t everything but there is just something so exciting when you sign into blogger and see that you have gone up another reader. That’s another person who enjoys coming to your site, loves reading what you have to say, what you have to show to the world. Who doesn’t want that, to feel that their voice matters? So yes, numbers can matter if you are really wanting to take your blog somewhere “special”.
Where am I going with this? Of course I would love if I could really turn this here blog into a mini business. To make it my big platform into bigger and better things. But more importantly I don’t want to loose that sense of community and being inspired from one another. So going back to Google Reader…
Is it just me or does it seem like ever since Google Reader announced that it will be removing this feature within the coming months that blogging has just changed? It’s almost as if we are all throwing in the towel and giving up on blogging. A lot of people don’t seem to be posting as much, commenting as much (all of which I’m guilty of as well). Instead of building each other up there’s so much contention of comparison and breaking each other apart.

I guess what I’m getting at is, why do we blog? What are our goals?
Don’t loose that first initial passion that I know we all had / have.

DATING AND MARRIAGE

As the weekend always teases us with the excitement of sleeping in and getting to spend the whole day together there’s also that anticipating question that we all know and dread, “What should we do?” And for those who are married, you know how important it is to keep the romance alive after the “I do”. When Eric and I dated, for two years we lived in two separate states so whenever we would fly to visit one another our dates would always be amazing. Hiking, exploring new restaurants, Seattle drives, symphonies, canoe rides and lunches on private beaches, night ski lifts, family vacations, bike rides on the island. I don’t know what it is about being married and wanting to just stay in, but I think Eric and I have had our fair share of those now and suffer from major cabin fever. Maybe its all these rainy nights and waiting for Spring to finally kick in here in Seattle. It’s only Wednesday but our conversations last night consisted of “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” “I don’t know, what do you want to do.” Why are date nights just so hard to plan now? Dinner and a movie are always the classic answer, but seriously what do you married people do all the time to keep the romance alive? Please tell me we are not alone here …

Leave your dating suggestions below!

LITTLE LADY: ANNA GLEAVE

Happy Wednesday readers! Today I am happy to introduce you all to one of my lovely sponsors, Anna from Hola, Guapa. I’ve been so privileged to have such talented ladies to feature on my site as of late, and Anna is no exception! This well traveled photographer is one beautiful lady inside and out. Read on to see why …

LITTLE LADY: CIDER WITH ROSIE

Sorry for my absence the past few days! The holidays have been keeping me busy, and that is just what I needed. I hope you all had a fabulous Christmas, spending time with families, enjoying the beautiful lights and eating lots of good food. I’m happy to report that I haven’t made one single meal since last Saturday and I’ve been relishing in a dish free sink (Merry Christmas to me!!). Today I’m off with the family to explore everything Seattle has to offer and tomorrow – fingers crossed – we’ll be up at the cabin playing in the mounds of snow and walking around pretty Leavenworth. So while I’m away we have the lovely Rosie from Cider with Rosie. This darling English girl is just about the sweetest, with a handsome boyfriend and just the cutest dog to match! Make sure to check out her site and see all the fun adventures and scrumptious food she eats along the way!
xo TJ.

LITTLE LADY: LADYLIKENESS

Happy ‘Doomsday’ readers! If you’re reading this then congratulations, we have survived the supposed end of the world. Glad that’s over with. Especially because I have bridesmaid duties to perform this coming summer for my baby sister-in-law – let the festivities and planning begin!! Let’s also get back to the joys of everything that is Friday, the upcoming greatest holiday of all time (4 more days!!!), and a new December sponsor. Today we have the lovely Rachael from ladylikeness. This Canadian beauty is one thrifty lady who travels around finding great new additions for her Etsy shop. Read on to find out great thrifting tips, the joys of the 90’s and what Canadians really think about the Biebs.
★ Also, January sponsor spots are now available.
xo TJ

LITTLE LADY: LITTLE ALMANAC

Happy Friday readers! Less than 2 weeks until Christmas and I could not be more pumped! I asked the mister the other day what present he was most excited to give and he said the new bed we bought for my family dog. I suppose this says a lot about the rest of the presents he got for the family and myself…? Moving right along. Today we have the lovely Kendra from Little Almanac. This hot mama of two and history connoisseur is just too cute for words. Plus, she puts together the greatest little films of her and her family. And if that top picture doesn’t give you the baby cravings I don’t know what will! Make sure to spred the holiday cheer and head to her site after this interview!
xo TJ

THE SIN OF COMPARISON

I’m sorry I am slacking on this site as of late. You could attribute that to the holiday season, cold weather or the food coma hangover from Thanksgiving. I’m sure all three of these are playing a role, but there’s something else that has been weighing heavily on my mind. I sat up late last night in bed having many conversations with the mister. About our future plans, jobs, work out and eating routines, you name it. But the truth of the matter is, I’m sad. I love my life, I really do. I love my husband, I love my family, I love being back in my hometown, and I love this time of year with so many happy, festive movies playing repeatedly on the TV. I’m not sure what it is but lately I have just found myself obsessing over comparing every little bit of my life to those around me. And I can’t help but think that I’m doing everything wrong. I’m working out so hard but see no changes. I see some of my friends with such incredible careers, chasing after their goals and making them happen and I’m just sitting on this couch. I see younger couples than me having babies with no second thoughts. Girls with effortless wardrobes. Elaborate weddings. Crafting skills. Upbeat and constant facebook statutes, tweets, instagram photos, blog posts. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not naive. I know these people have their own worries, concerns and insecurities. Life is constantly changing for everyone and bringing those personal challenges for us to overcome, to be refined and made better and stronger. I guess this is just mine and right now I’m sinking. I feel like I have no direction or motivation. I wish I could magically be skinnier, in shape, a little bit taller. I wish I could just want a baby without thinking of all those scary needles, doctors visits, labor, lack of sleep, not getting to accomplish things that I’ve always wanted to do (but know that most of them won’t really happen…but what if). I wish I could have a whole new wardrobe without dollar bills floating around my head. I wish I could get married every day (to Eric of course) with all of these pretty new dresses coming out and reliving that moment where everything is perfect and all eyes are on you. I wish I could have the desire to make my home a winter wonderland of DIY projects. I wish I could go outside and take pictures of every aspect of my life so I could share my own pictures on this site for once. I wish I could be one of those people who can constantly exude happiness 24/7.

The sin of comparison is so damaging to the spirit. And the worst is I’m doing it to myself. No one is pressuring me to compare, to not be happy for those who are happy. Who knows, maybe I just have to give myself a good cry and will be well. Just getting this out on my online journal here already has me gasping for air above the water, and those first breaths are relieving. I have faith that everything will happen on it’s own time. All the things I truly desire will come right when they need to. For now it’s all about choice, and I choose to be happy – one step at a time.

TAKE TIME

I don’t know if I mentioned this on my blog or not, but the mister and I are on an exercise/diet for the month of November. Taking time to really focus on your health and happiness is just good for the soul. Especially with this upcoming month to reflect on those things we are grateful for. Today I am grateful for my body. I have put this body of mine through so many things in the past years. Countless sleepless nights, sometimes a lack of balance resulting in some pretty bad falls, broken bones, eating issues. Today I’m listening to my body and taking a break from the blog today to focus on myself and healing. So thank you Albert Einstein for reminding me that we always have time. I have time to answer my emails. I have time to blog. I have time to watch my favorite TV shows. I have time to give hugs&kisses to the mister. I have time to enjoy all of these things, one step at a time.