A case of the "blahs"


What can I say that hasn't been said before. We all get a case of the "blahs" every now and again. Whether it be with our bodies, our creativity, relationships, work, the sin of comparison, or all of the above. You name it, we've all been there. Right now I feel like I have a big case of the "blahs" when it comes to the blogging world. Many people have noticed that blogging interaction has gone down significantly the past few months which can play mind tricks with your ego. Are people still reading blogs? Are people still reading my blog? Is my content relevant? Are my pictures pretty enough so that they will be "pinned"? With all of these higher social media platforms now, bloggers have to start getting creative when it comes to everything they put out into the media world. It's not really about the quality of writing anymore, but rather being better than other bloggers and having more of a follower base. And then you see all of these bloggers who have been having loads of success (heading to fashion week, being published in magazines, writing their own books, creating their own phone apps, doing company collaborations). I can't help but think, why not me? The sin of comparison is no fun. But I don't want this entire post to be a "debbie downer". I guess I just wanted to play my tiny violin and see if I was the only one feeling this way. All in all, I miss you! I miss your comments. I miss the friendships that spring from this blogging universe. Instead of comparing let's applaud others successes; let's inspire one another!
What tricks do you have to getting out of a "blah" state of mind?
Photo source by lululu.

91 comments:

  1. Blogging used to be such a big deal! It was so fun to meet new people, ask them if they have a blog (aways YES!) and then check it out. Seems like hardly anyone blogs anymore, they just use instagram. To each their own I guess! But keep up the blogging, I love seeing your adventures and what you love!

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  2. Hi, TJ, you know when I started my blog in Nov 2013, and when I shared this news on one of the huge fashion portals and also placed some of my looks, the feedback was absolutely various, but mostly I got to hear that I am not beautiful enough, that I am not stylish enough, that I am not tall enough, and some of them even said: how dare you start your own blog, you know nothing about fashion, so people proved me again that jealousy, aggressiveness and 'kindness' have no limits.

    Probably they were comparing me with the top bloggers who attend all the fashion weeks and get photographed every second. I think the main question here is why you decided to do your own blog, meet people, get friends, make money, get famous..... but still there is a lot of truth in what you said unfortunately, people hardly read I think they prefer pictures more. We could be friends darling! You are a smart and beautiful girl, I loved what you wrote, very relevant issue nowadays.
    Have a great week and can't wait to read your next post!
    Love <3 Zhanna, www.stylehenge.com

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  3. Babes, I think everyone feels this. Some days, you have a wealth of success in terms of comments, visits, followers and other days, you log on and the ratings are depressing... and for no reason!

    Sometimes I put something up that I'm really proud of and feel like the whole world (the blogging one) has just driven past, leaving it unnoticed.

    I think that's why a blog has to be for you, for your creativity, peace of mind; a genuine outlet, which makes you happy to off load onto. Who cares if people stop and listen? Easier said than done!

    If it helps, I came across your blog about a month ago after you left a comment on my blog and immediately loved the blog design/ title, which then led me to your 'about' section, which then made me want to read more of your blog posts.

    You're definitely one of the bloggers that I look forward to reading about. Your pictures are gorgeous and you seem genuinely lovely, which is why I'll keep coming back. Happily.

    Sophie x

    http://your-girl-is-lovely.blogspot.co.uk

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  4. The best trick: stop caring. This may sound weird or harsh or something, but it really works for me. I put things on my blog because I like it, because I think it looks pretty, because I love it. I try to not let pageviews or followers bother me as much as they used to. I try focusing on doing what I love and making myself, in real life, a better person that letting the fanbase of my blog be the judge of that.

    love,
    Natasja

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  5. I enjoy blogging and socializing get my inspiration from street and art. I enjoy reading different bloggers adventures and reviews.
    http://tifi11.blogspot.com

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  6. i know what you mean , i start my blog recently so is litle diffférent but for the moment i enjoy it and like to visit other blog too :)

    http://devsnochaos.blogspot.fr/

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  7. I know what you mean, sometimes it's hard but there also lot of positivie sides <3
    Xxx
    Carolina

    www.theworldc.com

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  8. The trick is doing what you like! I'm writting a blog because like it. To share somethings, only it.
    When I began in my blog I thought that nobody would read it but now I feel fondness for my followers (they are not so massive like as other bloggers but it's my small virtual family). Every beginnings are difficults but if you like do it, it's the most important.
    ((Sorry for my english haha))
    XoXo

    www.acooltime.blogspot.com

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  9. ah the "blahs" can happen to the best of us. the beauty of it is that often it's not for very long - and the highs are just that much better. i personally like to do yoga to get rid of my blahs. that and talking to my best friend :)

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  10. You are definitely not alone, m'lady. The best remedy I've found when I come down with a case of The Blahs, is to remember why I started writing a blog in the first place. In my case, I wanted to have a little keepsake to look back on, X amount of years from now - to remember little bits and pieces of days that would otherwise have been forgotten.

    So when I start to get caught up in how many page views I have or how many people comment on my posts (5 is a big deal for me by the way. Hehe. Remember - it's all about perspective!), it sucks all the fun out of blogging. It's an easy slump to get into.

    I think the thing that helped me snap back into reality was to remember *what* I was writing about. Blog-envy is a very real and very weird, stupid thing. Envying other blogs usually leads to attempting-to-copy other blogs, whether it be in content or in style. I think *that* is the point that people will start to lose interest in your posts. You know? Readers go to That Blog for That Reason, but they come to your blog for something completely different. ;)

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  11. You are not alone, friend! Sometimes I wonder why I even bother since I don't have a fancy camera, a jet-setting lifestyle, and the time/energy to put together amazing posts every day. Your last paragraph is -spot on -- no one wants to read 50 carbon copies of the exact same blog. Bor-ing!

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  12. I struggle with comparison more than almost anything, ha.

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  13. I totally understand! I feel the same way lots of times. Just remember to do what you love and always love doing it. If you don't, change it.

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  14. Totally get it! I also think the clouds and cold weather don't help much, either. I've tended to just not try to force it. I'd rather write a motivated, thoughtful blog post than just try to get something out. Spring (and inspiration) will come soon enough! xo

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  15. Hay veces que también siento ese "bajón", que una tiende a compararse con los demás. Mi remedio para ello es mirarme a mí misma, si soy feliz con lo que hago no tengo por qué compararme con nadie, si no es así, paro a pensar qué puedo mejorar y ponerme a ello. Soy de las que piensas que todo buen trabajo tiene su recompensa :)

    Muchos besos y ¡ánimo!
    http://unachicasual.blogspot.com.es/

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  16. Totally agree with you, it has become such a competition and people don't really care about what you write anymore that's why I kind of gave up on that. And if people don't comment or care as much than they don't deserve the attention, but do know that there are still people out there that love your posts :) xxx

    New post on:
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  17. i think it's sad that the blogging community is going downhill. i for one, love reading blogs & blogging. i don't think it should be about comparing our blogs to other more popular blogs. but i love your blog & the way you write & your pictures, so keep up what you have going on! :)

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  18. I totally know what you mean - I've been obsessing with the same topic for the last couple of months. Everyone is getting more and more shallow, the level of writing is becoming totally negligible, and to be honest, I don't know what blogging is without a good read. It's sad. And the lame competition between bloggers - does it really have to be like this? I mean, you write your blog because YOU want it and it comes straight from your heart. Blah.
    I say we stick together and save us from this shit we're in :D!

    xx
    http://gita-oddsandends.blogspot.com/

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  19. i totally agree with you on this! it's sad to me that the blogging world isn't what it once was. But I still love your blog--so keep up whatever you're doing!

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  20. ugh, i know what you mean... sort of... even though my follower base is way, waaaay lower than yours. but seeing the heights of what some bloggers are doing does make you think... what the heck do i have to do? and i follow some posts and the content truly isn't the same anymore, so it's kind of sad.

    xo, Brikena
    www.jarofjoy.blogspot.com

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  21. I know exactly what you mean. I think the biggest thing is to stop comparing yourself to others which is something that I am horrible at. You really just have to get back to the mindset that you blog for you first and foremost. Although it's tempting, you just need to forget all of the extra baggage or benefits that come along with blogging and get back to writing about what makes you happy. All of that other stuff will happen if it's meant to be :)

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  22. I completely understand what you're feeling. I miss blogging just for the sake of blogging. It's sad that there's another layer above pure content right now - but maybe this ship will sail as well, and we can go back to loving original content just like before? :)

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  23. Girlfriend, I think about these things daily, and you are light years ahead of me! Just keep on trekking, you have a unique and AMAZING blog that will go wherever you will it. I always tell myself a series of one liners that help me get through my boohoos:

    1. What's meant to be will be.
    2. Nothing worth having comes easy.
    3. There will always someone with more AND less than you. (Whether that be money, success, clothing haha, etc.)
    4. Everything is perfect except what you perceive is not.

    It's a new week, today is a fresh start!

    xoxox

    Michaela

    http://michaelajeanblog.com

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  24. I totally understand how you feel because well I've been feeling the same. and it's just really not fun. I read a great quote the other day thought "stop comparing your behind the scenes to everyone else's highlight reel" so that is exactly what I'm trying to do!
    keep creating :)
    xo
    http://thefashionistabubble.blogspot.ca

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  25. Totally get you. I've definitely worried wayyy too much about followers and comments and traffic and views.....and the more I blog, the more I'm like, oh well, let it go. Blogging is more fun when I don't get too wrapped up in the logistics of all of it, when I just blog about what I want to, when I want to. It's hard finding that balance though!

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  26. i know what you mean! it can all seem a bit overwhelming! sometimes i wish i can have so much more but then i have so much fun with what i'm doing on the blog that it ends up not really mattering! :)

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  27. I call this being in a funk. I get in funks all the time. My current funk I blame on the weather. I am SO OVER this winter and being cold and snowed in that I am just miserable and in a complete funk in all parts of my life.

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  28. I have the same thing too, whenever I have a case of the 'blahs' I go outside and take a walk. Some fresh air always works wonders for me.

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  29. Everything comes and goes :)

    http://shareasecretmag.com/

    xoxo

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  30. I get the blogging blahs too and lately have been struggling with inspiration. and also can't help but get a little jealous at some of the opportunities other people seem to get. hopefully we'll get out of our ruts soon!
    -- jackie - jade and oak

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  31. I honestly can relate to every single word you wrote! And you have written it so damn well :)
    I'm following you on GFC. YOu have a great blog here and you deserve everything tha the other big bloggers get :p

    http://mykindofjoy.blogspot.pt/

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  32. I read your blog everyday. It is the MOST relevant. Duh.

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  33. Aww I'm sorry you're havitng the case of the blahs, dear. But I totally feel you. I'm feel like I'm constantly hustiling, and at the same time resisting the temptation to compare myself with the success of other bloggers and whey there were invited to this show and not me, etc. I think you just gotta keep at it and remember why you started blogging the first time (for me it was for the fun and love of fashion). As long as blogging is still fun, I'm going to keep doing it because that was my goal. That usually helps gets me off of my slump and help get rid of any "sketchy" thoughts from my head :)

    -Gita
    www.mimiandchichi.com

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  34. We definitely all have those blah moments! And I'm not so sure there's much of a cure, just ride it out and be inspired by the world around you.

    Hope that helps in any possible way :)

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  35. There is nothing more annoying than being in that state of mind. I feel like I am in it so often now. It is so easy to compare to everyone else. Through instagram, blogging, you name it. Social media has made green monsters of us all! With that being said it is such a great tool. I have connected with so many people I wouldn't have had the chance to if it wasn't for my little blog :)
    When I get into a rut about my blog I try and change things up. New posts, new content, but most importantly sharing how I feel. (which is what you've done!)
    Every blogger/girl goes through this! And it's important to remember you're unique. There's only one Little Lady around. And I sure love her!!!!!!
    Keep it up girl!!!

    Bekah
    http://vanillaslumber.blogspot.ca/

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  36. Don't worry lovely, we ALL have those 'blah' moments. Especially in the blogging world, where everything is put up for all to see, there can be such pressure and comparison.

    All I can say is, do whatever you do for yourself and no one else, and do something you enjoy above all.

    {Teffy's Perks} X

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  37. gosh, i get a case of those 'blahs' far too often. my sweet husband...so often having to help pull my spirits out of gutter. a little yoga, a run, or some vitamin d from the sun always help me! a mentor of mine once told me, "comparison is the thief of all joy." and isn't that so true!? sending love!

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  38. I can see how easy it could be to fall prey to this comparison thing. And I've only been blogging for less than a year. Acknowledge your feelings and move on right? What else to be done. Or give the blog a makeover because that's always fun and refreshing. ;)

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  39. I love your honesty about this topic because rarely do we talk about it, instead the blog talk is mostly cute, but at times cliche. I think the best way to get out of a 'blah' moment is to keep it real just like you're doing. Thanks for sharing, now I know I'm not the only one feeling 'blah' from time to time.
    Megan @ sirenjane.blogspot

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  40. I wrote a post similar to this about a week ago? My blog definitely isnt as big as yours by any means, and sometimes I wonder if I am just not "cool" enough. I definitely think it should just be more about writing, and celebrating everyones individuality. Not who is prettier, and has a cooler life. I still read your blog all the time :)

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  41. Sweetie I think we all feel like that from time to time. It's good to know you are not alone. :)

    Diana
    www.ManhattanImageandStyle.com
    New Blog Post: [My Outfit] A Pink Monday

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  42. Your blog is the only one I've never gotten bored of (well, yours and Allison's, must be a SIL thing) but I see what you're saying - blogging is HARD when everyone else in the entire universe seems to be getting a book deal and you're not (seriously, why is no-one paying me to write random stories about my days yet?) but you're definitely not alone, and I for one am always reading every post. I just don't comment on every single one of them because when I do, I start to feel like a major stalker...

    Charlotte xxx
    The London Project

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  43. First of ::hugs to you::. I know this feeling all too well. It's hard because you're sharing parts of your life and you start thinking "am I not interesting?" "what's wrong with me?". I think partially it's a "who you know" game AND luck. I get so down about my life lately and I have a habit of comparing my life to others and it's not fun. Just know that... I love your blog. I think you're so darn pretty and you have great taste! Just keep being yourself and I read someone's comment about not caring. I think that's actually great advice even if it's hard to do. Keep your pretty chin up! You're doing a beautiful job! Also, sometimes it's a good thing to not blog, tweet, instagram, etc. so much - you get to be present in your own life which I think we forget sometimes to do these days!

    xo
    Rachel

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  44. Trust me, you're definitely not alone. I wrote a post sort of similar to this in December after I had lost a few followers all at once for no reason I could think of. For me, I feel like the talk of "no one blogging anymore" is more prevalent than the reality of "no one blogging anymore." Still, it can feel so discouraging when you see other bloggers who seem to have it all come so naturally. Don't worry love, the blahs will fade! Never be afraid to take a beat and reformat your mindset (I often have to)!

    xoxo

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  45. It's winter...I'm totally feeling you. When I get the blahs I throw on heavy doses of color!

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  46. Something is I'm the air because I've honestly heard SO many people saying the same things lately. I've been feeling the same myself lately, too. It's hard to navigate blogging because there are so many "rules" and whatnot... but following them doesn't ensure anyone's success. Frustrating!

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  47. A good escape from a 'blah ' moment is to create a playlist of fun songs that make me all kinds of happy. Then, go to a quiet place and get your you back! :) You're great, keep doing things for yourself and try to take care of yourself and not chase comparison.

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  48. Ah...I was having a "blah" moment about my blog last week. My blog will probably never be "famous" or "for-profit" but I had to decide that that wasn't the reason why I wanted to blog. I had to blog for myself first before I blogged for other people. TJ, you were one of the first commenters on my blog posts. You still do comment on my posts. It makes me the happiest girl in the blogging world. I look up to you so much. Thank you for inspiring me!

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  49. Ohh I know this blah feeling oh too well! Love your blog!

    http://ldnminute.blogspot.co.uk/

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  50. I go to my craft room, turn on all the lights and open the heating vent. Then, I watch Downton Abbey or 24 while I make tassel garlands and chat with my daughter in law. It pulls me out of the blahs really fast. Tee hee!

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  51. OMG I have been seriously having the worst case of the blahs as well!! I have just been trying to get out more and next weekend we are spending the weekend at my parents by the beach! Hoping it helps and hope your case of the blahs goes away soon!!

    <3 Shannon
    upbeatsoles.blogspot.com

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  52. Great post

    Will you like to follow each other?
    New Post Fashion Talks


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  53. Oh man you're definitely not the only one and thank God you wrote this because I was beginning to think I was alone out there in this big blogger world. I've been feeling so uninspired lately, more so visually than with my words but I always feel like no one ever stops to read what I write, they just comment on the photo above or ask me to follow them. I thought I was going crazy here, thinking I need to change something or attract a newer audience but I guess we're all facing this stress, wanting that illusive contract with a PR company and brand collaborations. I'm too focused on my Instagram account. I just can't seem to attract anyone LOL. That is probably my biggest social media concern, it's even stopped me from posting like I do because I sit back and think, will this get me likes or followers. So my activity is down, but the quality is up there. In my opinion anyway! It's really annoying trying to focus on it and not wanting to be obvious and start taking photos of designer pieces just for the sake of it. Oh look at me, I have Givenchy! I don't know how to get past it, maybe it's a phase like writers block that we'll eventually overcome. But if you have the answer hit me up too please!

    SDMxx
    www.daringcoco.com

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  54. You are most definately not alone! I'm so glad I read this and know that I'm not the only one feeling this. i've noticed readership has gone down in general and I'm not really sure why either. it's so hard to not compare yourself to others and their success and opportunities. I constantly feel like I'm not good enough and it's so tough :( but what I can say is that I love your blog and you always have me coming back! xoxo

    iambornlippy.blogspot.ca

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  55. It's so funny that you mention that blog interaction is down. Because last summer my blog was getting about 20-25 comments. And around fall it went down significantly. But, I also know that I joined Instagram around that time and that is the only other social media I participate in. I think a lot of my commenters see me there and the "like" is just easier than a comment. Having said all of this, your blog is great and I always enjoy your pictures. To be honest with a blog like yours, with so many comments, I sometimes just feel like a number. It has nothing to do with you personally just the eye seeing so many comments automatically just assumes "this blog already has a lot of comments already." Nonetheless, I will make a concerted effort to comment on what I really love. I loved your "cabin" pictures. They were great. Blogging is crazy. I only blog for my family and me, but it's amazing, like you said, what's happening to some people. It's crazy. I mean bloggers are becoming famous. Really, I thought you were famous. I think everybody knows your blog. It's a great blog. Take care and lots of love,

    Shauna xo

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  56. girl, i totally feel ya. sometimes what works for me is just taking a breaking or going on adventure outside. i like to have dance parties in my undies and eat lots of cookies. thats what works for me. hope you get some inspiration soon. i've always loved your blog.

    K

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  57. I think we've all been there tj. It's so hard to not compare yourself. My blog has always been my creative outlet because my actual job is not so creative. I just try to make sure that what I put on my blog is something I enjoy...just in case no one reads my blog at least I know that I can always go back and enjoy it. But fyi your blog has always been a favorite of mine from the beginning.

    xo erica

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  58. Yeahhh...been there, done that. Not fun. BUT! You are an inspiration to many more than you may realize, and thus have a broader reach than you know. I like your blog; you're a great blogger. By the end of the day, I think that's an accomplishment anyone would be proud of.

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  59. Blogging is about posting things you like, and if you can joy other people with your blog than you can say you are a lucky woman :)

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    1. oh yeah, I hate it when people only say: great post. Follow each other? They don't read or even look at the pictures. They only leave comments to have more and more followers to get invited for fashion events. I think that's sad. I know you're not that kind of person, you leave great and kind comments on my blog. Thank you for that :)

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  60. Oh girl! Great post! I feel you! I'm looking at your blog, and you have so much more followers and comments then any other blogs.I would think that your blog is very popular and maybe even bringing a little income.I definitely love your blog and post like this one! Keep up the good work :-) I just followed you on instagram.If you like you can follow me back and keep supporting each other :-)

    http://www.fabuloustorture.blogspot.com

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  61. I understand how you feel. It's tough out here in the blogging world and I feel so unmotivated and lazy at times esp now.

    Keep at it and goodluck dear!

    http://www.pinkoolaid.com/

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  62. I guess everybody gets its own thing. Somebody becomes a world-known blogger and another person becomes just a very happy gal. I agree, there's no point in compairing. You just do what you like and how you like and see where it brings you.

    Xx

    Alexandra

    www.fashion-bridge.blogspot.com

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  63. I can so relate to your post. We all just naturally compare ourselves to others. And sometimes I just hate the fact that I do it. But I can't help it! Blogging is tough some days when you feel like you aren't making enough progress. But on those slow days "or blah days" we just need to not think too much about it. Maybe take a break from it all then come back.

    You are such a great writer and your blog has an artistic feel about it. So keep it up!

    xx Cissy
    www.idreamofbunnies.com

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  64. oh i somehow know the feeling. but i guess it's just a matter of perspective. i am also not as popular as other bloggers and often think it would be nice to walk a mile in their shoes sometimes. but popularity is not what i look for in blogging and i am thankful for every blessing my blog has given me. try focusing on the little positive things rather than the negative ones and hopefully you'll feel better. :)

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  65. Excllent choice of topic, I think there is far too much 'competition' albeit it friendly here in the Blogosphere but I think if you keep your ground and stick to the real reason why you are blogging, then everything should be fine. Blogging to me isn't about getting famous or sponsored, its about getting to write on a topic I love. I am just happy that someone, anyone gets the time to read it. Thanks for lending me your thoughts on my last post dear.

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  66. The thing is, no matter how "big" one becomes, there's always someone bigger to compare oneself to. It's so much better to be grateful for everything we have right now, in this moment. X Jane http://janeheinrichs.blogspot.com

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  67. I absolutely love this post. It's certainly the reality and you're right that everyone feels this way at one time or another. I whole-heartedly agree with you. It really is important that we applaud each other. We'll all have all our success in our own way, it's just getting over that sin of comparison that's so difficult sometimes. It blinds us of our potential. Love this! Love your blog!

    And thank you so, so much for visiting my blog and commenting! Hope you can stop by again soon <3

    www.from-TheLionsDen.blogspot.com

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  68. Believe me, you're so not alone. I know exactly how you feel!! And I've been especially blah lately too. =/ Hang in there, though... I usually find it does pass. And in the mean time I just try to remind myself that I'm doing the best that I can... as long as I keep it up, it will happen. I know it will. And it will for you too... I LOVE your blog, so just keep it up!

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  69. as you can see, you're not alone tj. i get the same thoughts weekly (if not more) and sometimes feel like my efforts are entirely futile. the important thing to remember id why we started blogging in the first place. genreally, people want to be inspired. and reading honest, funny, relatable writing or seeing beautiful pirctures or learning something new is what attracts readers. i think if you stay true to that, the rest will come. and yes, people are commenting less but that doesn't mean they're reading. please keep on keeping on becasue i, for one enjoy everything your bring to your personal site. ;)

    www.currenttempo.com

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  70. So interesting, thanks for sharing your thoughts! =)

    http://whattostyle.blogspot.com/

    xoxo,
    Jess

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  71. So great post

    mind to following each other
    theanotherpartofme.blogspot.com

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  72. Oh honey I totally feel ya! If anything I feel like I'm been blogging MORE with less feedback. It's getting tougher and tougher to feel anything but uplifted when the numbers stay static but I constantly have to remind myself of the reason I got into this game in the first place. It was never about followers, it was all about having a creative outlet so I can vent. Maybe a mini-break is on the horizon? You may come back refreshed and refocused with a brand new plan of attack! You can do it babe!

    Thank you again for visiting and hope to see you back for my latest designs!

    xo-Julie
    Peace. Love. LOL!

    Haute Khuuture Blog

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  73. I'm still reading your blog, OF COURSE! :)

    I know how you're feeling- a case of the blahs is totally normal. (And who doesn't want to go to Fashion Week, so I feel you there.) I typically try and battle the blahs with a little treat- usually in the form of some shopping therapy. Can be something big or small, but just something new to perk me up.

    Happy Tuesday, babe!

    -Ashley
    http://lestylorouge.com

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  74. I'm right there with you - the blogging friendships are the whole reason to do this thing. We need to not compare ourselves with each other and just enjoy each other! :-)

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  75. You're definitely not the only to feel that way. Monday was a BLAH day for me too. But this will perk you up!

    We're nominating you for the Sunshine Award! We love reading your blog.

    xx- The Attic
    http://threesistersattic.blogspot.com/2014/02/and-award-goes-to.html

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  76. I understand what you say. Sometimes it is very difficult but have a blog is a great experience too :)

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  77. High five. Amen. I love you.

    Like you, I too noticed that people have turned away from social media and such.It's been a long time coming, and to be frank: some part of me thinks it's for the best! We shouldn't get too lost in our online lives. On the other hand I've had a hard time trying not to internalize the decline is written support. I felt like I was doing something wrong and like I was chasing everyone away. I still have that feeling on my most blah-ish days, but somewhere I've realized that the people that I still send messages with are the people that have been around for the longest time and who have been there for me forever. Realising that has made me feel a lot better :) ! xo

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  78. I can totally relate to what you're feeling. 110%! Especially here lately. I have been comparing myself to other bloggers who got popular really quickly and have book deals, and wonder why it's not me. I've been in it for several years now but haven't seen the traffic that I'd like. There's just so much competition out there!

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  79. I could only read this post with big astounding YES! after every line. It's a sad reality, but we've ALL been there. exactly where you are right now and we've felt those feelings, had those thoughts. You are not alone, sister. Something my mom always reminds me of is the fact that we're all living our own journeys. There will ALWAYS be someone who is richer than you, poorer than you, has more or less blog followers than you, but all of that is irrelevant when you really zero in on your path and the things YOU are doing. It's easier said than done, I know. But TJ, you have so much going for you! I come to HLL and I continuously feel inspired :) If this is what you love, keep doing it. Don't let the sin of comparison keep you from pursuing something great! I'm so glad you're feeling a bit better today; pretty soon all of your sorrows will fade with time, and all you'll be left with is a stronger piece of your heart because of this experience.

    xoxo

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  80. Thank you so much :)
    It would be such an honor for me, if you follow me !! :)

    Greetings, Shawnee :)
    Lichtgeflüster (light whispering) :P

    PS: On my blog there is now also the possibility to translate the texts. :)

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  81. I have felt the same way on and off and have even toyed with the idea of quitting blogging all together, but then I remember why I started and also remind myself that I need to comment more on other peoples blogs as well and not just expect people to comment on mine.

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  82. Sometimes I just have to wait it out. Other times forcing myself to go out and do things helps a lot. I notice the more active I am, the less down I feel.

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  83. I feel what you are talking about every so often. Many times it's more about the number of followers people are trying to get. I think the best thing you can do is be you, be true to who you are. I love your photography so much, and you inspire me tons! Stay positive, good things will definitely come your way.

    Much Love,
    Tania
    http://inspiremyfancy.blogspot.com

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  84. great blog and great quote! :)))

    http://sartorialwackoe.blogspot.com/

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  85. Ahhhh TJ I'm sorry your feeling a little blah lately, if it helps I've always loved your blog and your content it's always been very honest and I've always felt I could relate to you.
    Http://speckles things.blogspot.co.uk

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  86. I definitely know what you mean... even when I don't feel like writing, or going out and taking pictures, whenever I do I end up feeling better. I had a major case of this yesterday! Maybe you should try a new location for taking pictures?

    x. jill
    beck daily

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  87. Maybe bloggers collectively are having the "blahs"—I know I have been, and even many of my friends who write sought-after blogs here in NYC are, too! Here's hoping spring weather perks us all back up soon :)

    Blonde in this City

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  88. Hopped on over to your blog since you check out mine and I LOVE IT! I'll be popping through here more often :) oh and I get the blahs all the time. I just take some "me time" until it feels right again.

    http://www.thecrackedlensblog.wordpress.com

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  89. Thank you so much for bringing this up. I have been thinking about this so much lately. The blogging community just feels absent lately. I feel like so many people are focused on gaining success through blogging. And then there are people like me who get lost in the wood works. It's sad, especially since I have made so many incredible friends through blogging. Way to speak up lady!

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