THOUGHTS FOR A MONDAY


I ran across this quote the other day, and since then I haven't been able to get it out of my head. I couldn't help feeling, do I fit these words? Am I just like everyone else? Is my blog like everyone else? It's so easy to get into a routine, to be on autopilot and make the decisions that you think you should make. To buy the clothes that everybody wears. To watch the same shows, listen to the same music, to think the same as your friends and those you look up to. To write on here the words I think you all want to hear.

In return we lose ourselves. We can't even remember the way we really feel about things; we can't decipher what is our own thought and that of others. This week I'm really reflecting on myself, getting back to the root of who I am. To wear whatever the heck I want to wear, most likely my favorite Peter Pan t-shirt my mom bought me for my 25th birthday. To eat a giant bowl of mint chocolate chip ice cream after dinner and for once not think about how much I'm going to hate myself after it. To record an absurd amount of videos of me lip syncing to Avril Lavigne (from her 'Let Go' album) because that's what I do in my spare time apparently. To finally delete those people on my Facebook that made fun of me in high school but 'added' me as soon we graduated. To say it's okay if I have my emotional roller coaster days and not feel pressured to fake a smile. To not just write a post about nothing just so I can say I blogged. To be proud to look back at this little corner of the Internet that I have now spent years working on.

These are just little snippets of who I am, and I can't wait to spend the rest of this week reclaiming me.
(photo via). - xx TJ

41 comments:

  1. I was just telling my husband that blogging with an audience can be a tricky business. I just want to share my thoughts and say what I'm feeling but I have keep my head on straight to do this. Like you are saying, not worry too much about what others might think. This is always a good reminder.

    I'm glad you are going to unfriend those people.

    And I'm glad there will be no more hating after a bowl of icecream. Icecream is good for you. It's not a treat of empty calories right? It could be much worse.

    Take great care and happy reflecting,

    Shauna xo

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  2. I wish we hung out in real life because Im on this wavelength too. Yes, BE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OWN IT WITH A SMILE!! You do a great job of it but its easy sometimes to get caught up and want to be apart of that blogging trend. I say screw it and create ur own trend, your own world! BE YOU! AMEN!

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  3. It's hard to be simply yourself nowdays. To stop comparing yourself with others and simply be happy with what you have. It's hard, but not impossibile.
    xx
    Stop by Little Miss Twiggy fora bit of inspiration...
    http://littlemisstwiggy.blogspot.com/2013/06/a-bit-of-inspiration.html

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  4. love this quote. i agree to everything you said! x
    - Jianine

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  5. To an extent, I think it's inescapable. We're all inspired by something or someone, and I feel like it's impossible to be original. Like you alluded to, it's best to be an individual and do the things you like because you like them. Sometimes that means you'll fit in with a certain crowd and sometimes that means you'll be a loner. But you'll be doing what you truly like and that will make you content and proud of yourself.

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  6. this is absolutely true!
    reflecting on ourselves every once in a while is very important to re-conect...
    great post TJ!

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  7. That that is such a great quote!! And I couldn't agree more with what you said...it's so true...and amazing how quickly I can lose myself. Thank you for the reminder to be me.

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  8. Really glad you posted this. I've been reflecting on that, as well. Its hard to get so caught up in what we think other people's expectations of us are and forget what we really love, what we're truly passionate over, and what we honestly don't give a stink about. Its so freeing to finally relax and just get comfortable in who we really are.

    Nicole
    settleinn.blogspot.com

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  9. i literally just wrote this quote down the other day to myself -- spooky! :)

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  10. I like this post - it's so easy to lose yourself. I have a bit of advice though that might help on the blogging front - I felt swamped and under pressure recently on the blog front so set up a separate blogger login. I've given myself writing permission over on that profile and now use it when I want to blog. This means that when I go to blog now all I have in front of me is the option to see old posts, and to write something new. No follower count glaring at me, no page views telling me I didn't do so well that day... it's made it all so much more relaxing and has gotten rid of any and all urges I had to blog for the sake of blogging, and to write the words I think others want to hear

    In other news, Disney t-shirts are awesome x

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  11. Oscar Wilde has the best quotes- I used one way back in high school in my senior yearbook, actually!

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  12. what a great reminder to start the week off with..thank you xoxo -Court @ lovecourtxoxo.com

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  13. I LOVE this. So refreshing and true! I find myself feeling this way too. The quote couldn't be more real. We base ourselves off what others do, say and thing. "We" being the majority. I even get caught up in it from time to time. It's so easy to compare myself and want to do and be better than others at things, but end up doing the exact same things. Or even beliefs are just past down without really determining our life's goals and passions for ourselves. Great food for thought. Don't mind me if I join you this week girl in redefining myself too!

    -Emma

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  14. I love this post so much, TJ! We all need a reminder every now and then to remember who we are and to let that girl be who she is!

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  15. Amen girl, I agree that I totally need to press the reset button every once in a while to make sure that I'm not just coasting along and missing the little things in life that make me unique!

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  16. Tj the reason you are one of my favorite bloggers is because you ARE different in all the right ways... To
    me it seems you have fun with life- take it or leave it adatude and great outgoing spirit! That's what makes it great to read and great to think on... Just like this post- different, inspiring and some how still crazy cute!
    Keep it up.. Keep on being epic T.J. and you'll at least keep blessing me:)

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  17. You go girl! Love this post!

    xx

    H&H

    http://hemingwayandhandbags.blogspot.com

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  18. Thankyouthankyouthankyou for sharing! In this day and age with the internet and Facebook (not to mention Pinterest ;)) it can be easy to conform to the ways of "everyone else." Not that that is always a bad thing -- it CAN sometimes be a good thing, forcing us out of our various comfort zones), BUT it's important to be aware of it and take a moment to step back and make sure that we're not losing ourselves in others; that our individuality still exists. Great post, TJ!

    I want you to know that I shared your words: http://imaginationinprocess.blogspot.com/2013/06/something-everyone-should-read.html :)

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  19. I find blogging more enjoyable when I blog not to "just say that I blogged." I still love looking back on the blog posts that only I have found interesting, with their small amount of pageviews and literally no comments, because I remember that day and how much fun I had. It does get a little frustrating, knowing that I have been blogging for three years (come September) and having under 200 followers, soon to be under 100 once GFC disappears! But I haven't loved blogging more :)

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  20. Definitely well said. It's amazing how you can re-discover yourself through blogging and what it all means to you (and ultimately your readers).

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  21. this is great.
    something that I really feel like I've done the last few years is grow into myself. become myself. to think for myself. there's an excitement in deciding if I like something based on how it makes me feel, what I think of it and never based on what other people think or like. I wish I had learned this earlier in life. I hope I can do a decent job of teaching my (future) children about being themselves no matter what.

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  22. I always have this problem, these thoughts. I worry that Im just like everyone else, blog wise. When I start to feel that way, I do a technology break and when I get back, I do a tech cleanse (clean out blogs I don't read, twitter feed etc). The more I keep people I relate to close, the truer I stay to myself.

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  23. i really love this quote, and everything that you said here. i honestly think blogging is a way to simply "be yourself" and it doesn't matter how similar your blog is to others. if you enjoy it, then that's all that matters.

    lindsey louise

    hellomrrabbitblog.com

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  24. I love this. Thanks for the reminder - I want to be better about this as well.

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  25. This is great. It's something I struggle with to. It's like I just automatically do what everyone else is doing, without even meaning to.

    Thanks for the reminder TJ :)

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  26. TJ this post is going to stick with me for a while, thank you so much for writing it! I am always trying to fit in and do whatever everyone else is so I am definitely guilty of losing myself. Even in the blog world... I strive to be more "honest" in my posts instead of only writing about the cheerful, perfect, good things in my life, but it's hard. But it all makes me who I am and I should be proud of everything, even the not so perfect stuff. Have a good day!

    Sarah @ Life As Always

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  27. Loving this quote! Your thoughts couldn't be more true! I think as bloggers we need to be genuine about who we are, because the connections with our readers are what's going to keep them coming back! Thanks for this great thought!

    Shannon
    http://GBOfashion.com

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  28. Now i have to see this peter pan tshirt! Enjoy that bowl of chocolate mint chip - you deserve it. You're you.

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  29. amen, sista. i question these things all the time, what a great reminder. love the Facebook thing--so true!

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  30. very touching post ,
    very true..l
    ove the way you write..

    new post on my side,if the road takes you there..

    love,
    M.

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  31. Avril Lavigne? YES. Anyway ... I 100% agree with you, not just about this happening in the blogging community but outside of it as well. Do we even really like the things we think we like? Or is it because someone else likes it?

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  32. So wise <3
    http://coeursdefoxes.blogspot.com/

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  33. LOVE everything about this :)

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  34. I really enjoyed this post. I can relate to what you're saying. I actually have been so busy with all sorts of life that I haven't had time to blog and there's a part of me that enjoyed being away from the internet because I felt like I was getting back in touch with myself. Even as annoying as being "busy" can be, it's kinda nice to be away from social media, how many people checked out your blog, what to blog about, etc. In a world where we tend to share so much via the internet, it's nice to take a little "me" time and remember who and what you're about!

    xo
    Rachel
    picklesandchapstick.blogspot.com

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  35. Well said!!!! Do what you makes you happy no matter what!!! I say HELL WITH IT, you eat that bowl of mint chip icecream girl, you are beautiful and that is not going to make you anything less ;-)

    xo Dinah @ Sunshine super glam

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  36. So good. Thanks for the insight!

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  37. 'Let Go' YES! that was my first album ever, and I still know every lyric by heart. you are just so darling and uniquely you! xoxo

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  38. That is just what I've been thinking lately, with this internet world it is so difficult to be genuine, and so easy to be caught up in a pattern.
    So good to hear someone else having these thoughts, lets enjoy life much more and stop the comparing ourselves with other people.

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